What do you want in a mate?

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That ... didn't come out right.

Mutual attraction - I guess it's either there or isn't, and it probably isn't that hard to find.

With the second point I meant ... oh, that's difficult to explain. One part of it is that the other person and I shouldn't be too different in things like taste, what we expect from everday life and such, so that it's easy enough to give in or agree to disagree on something. With my last b/f I always got into arguments because we had a different stance on basically everything in life. The other part I meant with it is that both parties are willing to give in at times, to accept differences and try out something for the sake of the other person.

And the last part - well, yes. I know nobody is perfect, but I'd rather be with somebody who does a good job at coping with whatever issues s/he might have, rather than somebody who doesn't.

Oh, and I'm currently not looking because I want to sort out my whole self esteem issues first.

*appreciation for abstract conversation
*mental stability
*respect
*mutual attraction
*can be completely spontaneous and do crazy things on the drop of a hat
*very sociable
*knowing this girl is completely enamored by me but i have to work for it

- Mutual love, trust, and respect
- Good sense of ethics/demonstration of decent behavior
- Honest and expressive
- Intelligence
- Drive, passion, potential
- Responsible, considerate of others.
- Knows herself.
- Creative
- Laughs with me
- Unashamed and sexually expressive, okay to hold hands and even kiss in public
- Unafraid to just let go and enjoy life now and then
- Faces her problems head-on, brave, enduring, strong, tough
- Patient, willing to accept me in my flaws
- Not jealous or possessive, preferably does not demand monogamy
- Would never willingly listen to Coldplay
- Average to above-average looks, not too skinny (I hate those jagged edges on thin girls)
- Nice teeth (the last couple of girls I dated had protruding upper teeth, which was... problematic)

Last girlfriend got upset when I kissed her for more than a split second in public or made out with her in front of her roommate (god forbid!! you're a slut if you make out with your boyfriend in front of your gay roommate who will make out with his boyfriend in front of us all the time ).

For me, I just want someone to love me for who I am. I don't want a guy who wants me for..."it". Ick! I want someone to love me for my heart and my soul.

At school, I see couples flirting sexually and kissing in public and sometimes I think thats what a guy wants in a girl. But thats not me.

I know theres a guy for me and even if he lives in London, France or any other country, I don't care. I just want to be loved by someone who loves me for me. Someone who Sees me.

I find it funny how so many people make checklists for relationships on here.

As for my "requirements", I simply wish for someone who I love and who loves me back.

Great voice (due to my sensory issues, a bad one is a dealbreaker)
Intelligent, but less so than me. I want someone who gets what I'm talking about but not who finishes every statement I make with "I know". If we worked in different fields, he COULD be more intelligent without irritating me
Won't abandon me. Most people have
Not religious
Not consumerist
Liberal (last guy was a republic.unt)
Not clingy

1. Friendly
2. Understands me
3. Can tolerate me
4. Not mean, nasty or rude
5. Has a good sense of humour

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1. Vegetarian, preferably vegan
2. Asexual or sexual with low drive
3. Feminist
4. Liberal

5. Wants kids
6. Digs guinea pigs
7. can cook or is okay with simple stuff

8. Understanding of my Aspie issues
9. Understanding of my medical issues
10. Doesn't want arm candy, cause that I am NOT.

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