Pabalebo wrote:
This has to be my fundamental, underlying problem.
I think one of the things about AS is that we draw every thought out to it's logical conclusion somewhere in hyperbole... for example, at one point I took my libertarian political views to such an extreme that I considered myself an anarchist for about a year. Anyway, I digress...
How does this relate to dating? Well, as a forever logical Aspie, I base my conclusions on facts I know. Therefore:
Fact #1: Women reject guys they consider creepy.
Fact #2: Women consider a lot of things creepy, and I don't know what all of them are.
Fact #3: Women talk to each other about their feelings.
Conclusion: If one woman finds me creepy, everyone in town will think so in a couple of days. Goodbye social life.
This conclusion very often prevents me from even trying. And on the occasions that I do try, and on which, in retrospect, I probably could have succeeded fairly easily, it causes me to purposefully put myself in the friendzone as quickly as possible, in order to not seem like a threat (aka creepy).
While this conclusion has been great for me in some respects (it's given me a lot of friends, as well as a reputation, perhaps undeserved, as a good guy), it is absolutely KILLING my sex life.
The logic I use to come to that conclusion seems pretty threadbare... there has to be a hole in it somewhere. I need to break that logical hyperbole...
what is that every guy who does bad in dating a libertarian? Im not, but still.
you must live in very small town.
if a woman, thinks you are creepy then she is not worth it. find a better woman who does not think bad thing about you.
Im sorry, but you can't go your whole life worry if some woman thinks your creepy.
and remember too, women get hit on by many,many creepy guys (legit and fake) so you don't need to worry.
let say you are right, and go up to some woman and ask her out and she thinks your a ''creep''. unless you live in
a very very small city, chances are there would be another ''creepy'' guy asking her out. and probaly more ''creeper'' than you (according to woman) so he would cancel you out
and last, unless you tell the woman your name, and everything about you towards her. How would she even know you?
I mean, she would tell her friends ''some short guy with glasses hit on me today, he was creep'' so how would any other women knows it was you? I don't understand how one single woman can thinks your creep can somehow make every women in the town also thinks your creep.
two how do you assume this woman is popular too. How do you know that she has many female friends, or even going to tell her female friends about you.
30 Jan 2013, 12:47 am
