Does this ever put you down?

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I know not all aspies on this website will care that much for relationships. i myslef have been in just one or two relationships in my life and they were short lived and did not go well. does it ever bother you that relationships will be quite a lot harder to maintain and get than it is for normal people? In my opinon relationships do play a big part in life and its always nice to have comapany. this is coming from somebody who actually does not mind his own company. okay i will admit myself that i do have a bit of an 'entitlement complex' that i feel i deserve a long term meaningful relationship when really i have done hardly anything to go out and work for it etc........ I guess i can feel very lonely and unloved sometimes so that is kinda why i can feel entitled to a meaningful relatinship becuase of the feeling of lonliness. and i have never experienced proper love. i mean sure i have felt 'love' towards a crush but its rarely ever been returned back in kind from my love interest. then again even a lot of normal people experience that kind of feeling.

It does not help much either that in terms of 'looks' i am guessing that to a lot women physically i am not there type so you can see how that also might cause a problem as well as having AS in the dating world

But does it ever bother you or make you feel depressed that relationships will be harder for you because you have AS?

i think this is probably THE main cause why AS people are not happy, thats the reason why they get anxiety disorders, depressions and so on... and this is also true in my case.

bye,
anton

Well you see the thing is when i was 16 and 18 i was more popular with girls and they would approach me in social situations and want to get too know me more.

not so nowadays and they never approach me or talk to me anymore like they used to in the past. i will admit my looks have probably faded since i was 16 and 18 and i think i had more confidence than i did back then as well.

i also had better carrier aspects when i was younger and long term goals but today i am just waster and unemployed living with my parents. not cool

Ive been in a relationship for 12 years. It's certainly been difficult to learn the ropes of a LTR. But it's doable.

You just need to start puttng things together so you'll be a better catch for some girl. Once you do that, nobody cares what you've done in the past. All they care about is what you are doing now.

The thing is as well its tough for an aspie in the working world and women do tend to like men who have good jobs and earn a living etc...... maybe i should write a book and try and earn money of it since iam very talented writing.

simon when did you get your first girlfriend?

nothing worth having comes easy!

You are way ahead of me. I was 23. But after that I started picking it up. I think I was 22 when I started dating at all.

Women had been interested in me before that. I just couldnt deal with it.

I don't let it bother me too much. People are not a necessary source of happiness in my life

I sort of have this theory that the main problem with AS concerns finding a sexual partner. Think about it. If you didn't have trouble with this, then why would any of the various features matter? Maybe the males have so much trouble because they don't have any money, and not specifically because of AS, and the females have trouble because they're fat, and not specifically because of AS. Men and women with AS who are neither fat nor poor can find partners.

That it does. Building a meaningful relationship seems like one of the few endeavors that is truly worth striving for in life. All of the ones I have been in have failed miserably. Perhaps this goal, like many others I once had, will forever elude me.

Sgrannel - Dude no offense or anything man but what you said is beyond 'ret*d', i mean how can you even compare being fat too having no money? Money does not grow on trees whereas losing weight and becoming slim just requires your legs, a pair of shoes and the right diet.

Earning money vs losing weight? Which one do you think is easier and quicker to achieve without stress?

Anybody can get 'slim'

I'm neither fat nor poor and I can't get the time of day from women.

AS is not a money deficiency or a consequence of obesity...

Grisha why don't girls give you the time of day?

Oh okay so do you behave crazy and ecentricly around women and that kinda thing?

You look like a very down to earth guy judging by your picture.