Guy inviting causual friend to a dance

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I went to an 80's party last night at a church with one friend and two other people in a group. There also happened to be a guy that I wanted to ask out on a date since we had a lot in common and both of us are psychology majors. He also happens to live 5 miles from where I live and I was hoping that he would call and give me a ride. Yet, he didn't and so I had to ask for one from someone else.

As it turned out, he ended up inviting a casual friend of mine who live 30 minutes away, and was getting a ride from her parents. She has an ASD, and is an NT, and met her at my Superbowl party. He acted like he was interested in me and was even willing to go on a date.
Yet, he had never called me and asked me out but occasionally hello on FB.

Anyway, I got to the dance and was having a good time and I was excited that my casual friend was coming, but then I found out that he had invited her to the dance but they came separately. However, when they both came, they got together and started dancing and talking most of the night. From my scenario, I feel mixture of anger, jealously and maybe some confusion.

I also feel worthless a lot of the time because I meet a guy and things seem to work out but then some other young girl comes along and then all of a sudden I get kicked and I feel invisible. Maybe I felt that way last night.

you could ask him out - or is he with this other girl now?

It sounds as if you might have misread the signals but if you like him that much then take a chance and ask him out, nothing ventured, nothing gained as they say.

I know but I have had bad experiences in the past with guys who I have met and I think that there will be a possibility that we will go out on a date. However, I see them on another occasion and another girl will be in the room and he will start talking to her. All of a sudden, I get forgotten about.

true that.
a girl asking a guy out is fine.

I am totally fine with that and if he finds her more attractive choose. Yet he was playing with my emotions by holding my hand in group photos. He ignored me when my other friend showed up. He is the bit of a player.

Hand holding doesn't show interest alone. It could just mean he likes to be affectionate with his friends.

Honestly, guys may be passing you up because you show no outward signs of being interested. Men are just as afraid of rejection as women, and rely on cues.

If you really like someone and they don't seem to be getting the hint, it's time to be proactive. Take your love life into your own hands instead of waiting for him to notice you.

Men are dense.

true.
gotta make a move, sister!