One sure way to creep someone out on a dating site

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I had a stranger on a dating site address me as "sweets" yesterday. I nearly threw up - it's so patronising.
Post other things that bother you here.

On dating sites you mean?

My name is ______ and I'm so great. Unlike all the other guys on here, I'm not here for sex. In fact, I don't even think about sex. My balls were cut off at a young age, and now I have no balls, and no sex drive, so I absolutely will not try to message you and ask for sex. In fact, I prefer a woman with no sex hormones, because sex is so bad, and a priest cut my balls off because God told me that I have to wait till marriage before I can have them back.

Please message me if you are interested, because the rules of dating don't apply on here, and that's why I want to date you under conventional dating conditions. After all, I have no balls, so I will more than likely message you a period or two, hoping you will start the conversation so I don't have to.

I still get creeped out by the male stranger who follows me around a public place staring at me. I once had a man removed from Booksamillion because of this. This happened in a Winn-Dixie when I was still dating my husband. He noticed the guy before I did and became very confrontational on my behalf.

ETA: That's obviously not online but I don't do online dating (and haven't for 11 years) so I've got nothing to contribute solely for that.

Sending more than one message to the same person without an intervening reply is automatically creepy.

I got called a b***h for not fawning over a guy who sends me a message out of the blue saying I'm "hotter than Satan's a**hole".

Got lectured by a halfwit illiterate jarhead because he stumbled across one of my comments about war.

Got a message from a 50 year old (I'm 22) asking if I like "older, dominant men".

Received a message two days ago that said, quote "You're cute as hell! Wanna f*ck?"

That and all the people who message me out of the blue only to be shocked and shaken later when they discover I'm Autistic/vegan/atheist/feminist etc, when those tags are at the TOP of my profile.

I've had a few "bullshitters" in my inbox.

"awww, everyone wants me except you" (said he when I failed to reply to his third message)
Also guys messaging me with clear inconsistencies between their message and their profile info "Hi I'm a 32 yr old blah blah". Profile says 38. The guy who said he doesn't drink when theres a pic in his profile of him holding a beer. The guy who said he likes Manson and hates the outdoors. Occupation: bushland regenerator. Guys around my area sure aren't smart

lol you guys deal with some funny s**t.You couldn't pay me enough to make me call a chick sweets.

I got a message last week from a girl who said my username (same one I use here) was awesome, because she thought it meant something naughty.

One of the things a man brings up in our chat is about having sex and asking all these things about it with me like if I want to do this or that, especially if they meet up with me in real life and that is what they bring up. It just makes it sound like that is all they ever thing about and that is all they are after and their life evolves around it and they see women as objects.
I blocked a man on YIM in my area because he kept talking about sex and he knew I was married and he even tried to invite my husband to bed with him so he wouldn't feel jealous if he had it with me. I blocked him after that. I actually ignored his IMs after that and then blocked him when he kept IMing me a few times.

I don't do online dating either and I quit talking to diaper men because I would get this crap. Only ones I talk to are the ones who are my friends. I am not going to dump them over tons of pigs. If I were happen to be talking to someone I met from another forum and he turned out to have a diaper fetish too, I won't dump him either.

Oh yeah getting a message from a guy saying if I wanna cyber or have sex or whatever is creepy. I would take it as he isn't interested in me, he only wants me to screw with. I would just ignore the PM and not even reply. Not worth telling him off. Just delete.

Calling me baby or honey is weird.