Women: How would you like to be approached?

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27 Mar 2011, 12:08 pm

I was told to ask dating advice from women. I am clueless when it comes to approaching women. I don't know what to do, so I don't do anything. I'm afraid I'll look like a creep. So the question is how would you like to be approached?



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27 Mar 2011, 12:45 pm

As an Aspie female, I like to be approached if I am in a place where this is expected, like a club or a coffee house or something. I do not like being approached under casual but annoying circumstances, such as while shopping, or at the library (when I am task oriented and not in social mode) I find this extremely annoying, even when the guy looks interesting or good looking. Or at a laundromat, or while waiting for a bus. It just tangles things up.

Having said that, all I can say as to the manner of the approach, is to show respect. I have had guys literally approach me while noisily licking their chops, as if I were something to dine on, and not a human being. Or they would pay compliments to parts of my anatomy, which really infuriated me. There were even a few who would back me up to a wall and place their arms on either side of me while staring into my eyes. This terrified me!

I once had a guy who was in the same activist group with me, approach me with a couple books which he thought I might like. I was not attracted to him but looking back, I think that was a sweet approach. He was appealing to my mind, and not my body. So, show interest in the whole person, and not just their body. Find out something they are interested in, learn about it, and then try to discuss it with them.


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27 Mar 2011, 2:20 pm

em_tsuj wrote:
I was told to ask dating advice from women. I am clueless when it comes to approaching women. I don't know what to do, so I don't do anything. I'm afraid I'll look like a creep. So the question is how would you like to be approached?


See this thread:

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt126272.html



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27 Mar 2011, 3:42 pm

By who to be approached is more crucial than how to be approached.



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27 Mar 2011, 3:51 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
By who to be approached is more crucial than how to be approached.


You are what you do.


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27 Mar 2011, 3:57 pm

Moog wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
By who to be approached is more crucial than how to be approached.


You are what you do.




You are what you are.



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27 Mar 2011, 4:02 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Moog wrote:
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By who to be approached is more crucial than how to be approached.


You are what you do.




You are what you are.


I think therefore I am.


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27 Mar 2011, 4:02 pm

you are what you eat?



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27 Mar 2011, 4:07 pm

You are what you sh*t. :lol:



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27 Mar 2011, 4:13 pm

MCalavera wrote:
You are what you sh*t. :lol:


*imagines MCalavera as a large life-sized poo with arms and legs walking up to her in a bar*

If you feel that applies in your case, I'd rather not be approached by you from ANY angle.

Please keep well away.



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27 Mar 2011, 4:15 pm

all_white wrote:
MCalavera wrote:
You are what you sh*t. :lol:


*imagines MCalavera as a large life-sized poo with arms and legs walking up to her in a bar*

If you feel that applies in your case, I'd rather not be approached by you from ANY angle.

Please keep well away.


Even if I put the Axe effect on? :lol:



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27 Mar 2011, 4:21 pm

I s**t chocolate.



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27 Mar 2011, 4:23 pm

Moog wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Moog wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
By who to be approached is more crucial than how to be approached.

You are what you do.

You are what you are.

I think therefore I am.

I am the walrus.


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27 Mar 2011, 4:24 pm

MCalavera wrote:

Even if I put the Axe effect on? :lol:


Oh, right. Like that's going to change the fact that you're a poo.

:roll:

You shouldn't believe everything advertisers tell you. Women will not fall down helpless at your feet just because you happen to be wearing some dumb old spray.

(Do you happen to have that nice Africa one? Sighhhhhhhhhhhhhh....tremble.....swoon.......Thud).



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27 Mar 2011, 4:28 pm

all_white wrote:
MCalavera wrote:

Even if I put the Axe effect on? :lol:


Oh, right. Like that's going to change the fact that you're a poo.

:roll:

You shouldn't believe everything advertisers tell you. Women will not fall down helpless at your feet just because you happen to be wearing some dumb old spray.

(Do you happen to have that nice Africa one? Sighhhhhhhhhhhhhh....tremble.....swoon.......Thud).


If things were that simple then you wouldn't see any male crawling around L&D.