one-A-N wrote:
For me, high school was small and structured and I coped (just!), but university was a sea of unstructured life ... and I floundered.
Right.
Also, people at college aren't "smarter"; they're only richer. The ACT requirement for my huge four year university was a whopping 21 (out of 36- I got a 30) and you could still get in if you took placement exams. At my community college back home, FIFTEEN was the requirement.
And there being more people is NOT a positive, but a de-facto HUGE TERRIFYING, CRYING-IN-A-BATHROOM-STALL NEGATIVE for people who have social anxiety and do not enjoy being around people. Even were that not the case, it would only be relevant to meeting someone compatible if you met a significant MAJORITY of them- even the most social at my school I'm doubting met a sizable portion of 22,000 students. Sure there are more of the "type" you'd be compatible with...and depending on how small a proportion that "type" makes up, there are literally hordes more people you'd have to go through to find them.
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For there is another kind of violence, slower but just as deadly, destructive as the shot or the bomb in the night. This is the violence of institutions; indifference and inaction and slow decay.