Anyone in an LDR/ever been in an LDR?

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LDR = Long Distance Relationship

To explain myself, about a month ago, I received a message on my Facebook page from
a woman {in the UK} who saw my profile and wanted to talk to me even more.

I didn't think about her message until recently and
according to her profile, she is studying at Aberdeen College,
which I believe is in Scotland. The woman is also claiming to be deaf.

So questions I have for now is...What's it like to be in an LDR? Is it worth it?

No.

As I've mentioned before (many times), I hate when people ask about "a relationship."

As corny as it sounds, the phrase "meant to be" really does fit here. Two people who should be together, and it just doesn't make any sense otherwise.

So if you're meant to be, then yes. Personally, I'd say that if I were serious enough about the relationship, that would be true. Otherwise, I wouldn't even be considering a LDR.

In this case? Try talking to her as friends (though let it be known that you will be seeing if you're romantically compatible) and see where it goes from there.

I'm in an LDR, but the distance isn't too long and is merely a slight inconvenience. I'm lucky to live in such a small country.
Before I never would have had an LDR, but once you meet someone you're attracted to there's nothing that can stop you.

It's hard. With the right person and patience, it might work. With the wrong person, it doesn't work. Not all that different from being local.

I am. He lives in the US and I live in the UK. I've visited twice and he's visiting this summer. It's hard but do-able, I think but only if both parties are willing to put the same amount of effort into it. Communication is vital.

I have been, and it didn't end so well.

I’ve been in two long distance relationships and I’d say that in addition to the commitment from both people the distance entailed and the transport available are very important. I’m not saying they should be deal breakers but it does effect what other considerations are needed for a relationship to work, leading back to commitment from both people.

I have been, but I don't really count it because we were both very young and the distance wasn't all that much.

I'm in a LDR now...we haven't been dating long though, so it hasn't been difficult.

I have been. Didn't work out so well.

They aren't my first choice, but if there's nobody in your area that you connect with, you might have to expand your geographical boundaries.

I would never set out and plan to be in one.

Sometimes though two people connect and they can be a long distance apart. I have known many people who have traversed the world for love. I would if i found someone who could fit that bill. Life is too short for what if's.

Yes and they suck. Those relationships seem to end horribly for me a la. the guy cheating on me when I'm gone or never being able to visit my guy. I'm going to try to make sure I'm never in one again.

I would like to add to the conversation in regards to LDR failure that any kind of "R", "LD" or not, seemingly fails more often than not. Statistics, however, describes actual cases of individual people who fail; it isn't a force that makes them fail.