Waiting

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Do you ever feel like you spend most of your life waiting for things to happen? Big and small things, whether waiting for traffic lights to change, or waiting for a bus, or waiting for the right person to come along, or the workday to end.

There are so many minutes spent like this and I wonder if I could be doing something useful with all this time, especially since I am a very impatient person. My life really does feel like it is on hold right now. It is weird to think that I am single, so the onus of my entire life is on me, not having anyone to plan it with in partnership. So there are so many minutes......

Anyone relate?

Yes. It's frustrating too. The major thing I'm waiting on is medicare to kick in so I can get back on my meds. I *really* need my mood stabilizer...

I'm actually a very patient person. Too patient. I just need my meds.

Thank you Seph. I hope you get your mood stabilizers soon. I am waiting on a whole raft of things, really.

Yeah I can relate. I am usually waiting for change of school and stuff like that. I keep feeling in a new place my career will be perfect. But my past experience showed the opposite trend. So the funny thing is that I also miss older places where it was "better and safer". I want either to go back to the past, or run to the future. Anything other than "here and now".

I can certainly relate as well. With me, however, it is a strange mix of waiting and not having time. Work is crazy busy (which isn't necessarily a bad thing), so there is not waiting there and when I get home there are 10,000 things that need to be done and never time to get to most of them. My personal life, however, is all about waiting. Waiting to find someone to spend my life with, waiting to have time to read again, waiting to do thousands of little fun projects that I can think of but can never get to.

I can definitely relate because I felt like this most all my life but it's been my experience that taking a more active approach tends to screw things up for me. The more actively I try to make something happen or change a situation for the better; the more problems I create for myself & cause for my family. Waiting is the hardest part but it's also the safest method

i do not feel like i am really waiting, because the future doesn't totally exist to me in a positive way. i can't quite visualize things that are supposed to happen. what feels real to me is the present moment, and i do try to maximize that moment because, well... in my head it fully exists and i am fully within it.

maybe because i don't have a strong sense of future, thinking about the future feels unknown and unstable and scary. i do worry about what will happen next, but i don't feel like i am in a waiting room anticipating those future events either.

i guess that in my case "waiting" would mean dissatisfaction with current events as opposed to the potentially better future events, and i don't get dissatisfied very easily in the present tense. if things aren't good right now, i either adjust my thinking or i try to change things if i can. hard to explain, but i guess i feel like the future can be bad or good and i have no way to know how it will turn out anyways, but i have a lot of influence on my current moment.

in real life, i am content to wait in lines or wait for my turn or wait on hold, as long as i am not running late for something else (and even then, i am becoming more easygoing because sometimes i am just going to be late and getting upset won't change it).

i don't really ever get bored (oh, look, a flower! i am thirsty. is that a bumblebee? why is that man talking so loudly on his cell phone? those are interesting shoes...)

Yes, I do. In fact, if I could have the world to share one of my personality traits, it would be being direct. Whenever I set my mind to something, I get things done fast, direct, and efficient. Most of the time when other people are involved, I feel like "Come on, cut to the chase and get moving, this is a matter we could get over with in 10 minutes if we all just would start doing something". Don't get me wrong, I am not impatient, or impulsive. In fact, half of my mind is always busy mentally preparing myself for events I plan in the future. But when the event comes and things turn out as expected, then boy, I am there. I guess 90% of the time we spend waiting could be reduced if everybody would just be true to themselves, said what they thought and acted accordingly.

Thank you for your replies, guys. I wrote it last night, was having a bit of a bad night and then woke up at about 5am feeling pretty terrible.

I guess for me, I am tired of waiting. And I read about people who are time-poor, in other words they dont have any spare time, and I am technically time-rich, only I dont know what to do with it all. Not the same thing as being money rich, as I would have no problem spending it all .

Hyperlexian, I do get bored easily and I dont really have that talent of entertaining myself, so I dont like to be by myself for very long.

I've reached the pinnacle of what I can do on my own, and now I'm just waiting for my life to run its natural course... this is going to be a long 60 years. If someone came into my life it would be a different story though.

^ yea, because you're 50 already.