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THINGS I LIKE
Parasaurolophus, Plesiosaurs, Dinosaurs, Pterosaurs, Music, Tuna, Chocolate milk, Oreos, Blue things

Parasaurolophuscolobus. Parasaurcolobus. Colobusaurolophus.
....And Nunchucks are my friends.

So yeah... I guess it's true when they say "third times a charm." After my last GF and I broke up I thought I'd never fall in love again, but Fate appears to have had other plans... quite literally, seeing as it was advice from a fortuneteller friend of mine that convinced me to ask her out in the first place, and come to find out SHE'S a fortuneteller as well! The cards were most definitely in my favor when I met this woman, she is smart, funny, compassionate, wise, drop-dead beautiful, and most importantly, a loving, caring soul.

I was talking to a mutual friend of ours the other day, and she (the friend) told me that after she (my GF) and I started dating, that she (my GF) was the happiest that she (the friend) had seen her in a LONG while, esp. considering the two were childhood friends. I really feel like what she and I have is the real deal. The plus side is, if we ever get married she's enough of a geek to ensure our ceremony will be very interesting. I'm pretty sure The Legend of Zelda will factor in somewhere as our first date was at my house and consisted of us taking turns playing Skyward Sword on my sister's Wii.

That said, I haven't seen her since the end of finals, since she lives in Casper and only goes to Laramie for college, but she'll be back next semester, and until then I'm making plans to see her the weekend after the forth. We're both crazy otaku, and seeing as July 7th is Tanabata, the Japanese Festival of Stars, I figure I could go up to visit her and we could go stargazing at her ranch that night. I'm even planning on ordering us a pair of traditional yukata to wear that night, it'll be fun.

PS: I just made this her personal ringtone on my phone:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ttqjAXe_6TQ[/youtube]

...I don't know how this post got overlooked the first time

In a great one all by myself. Don't have to do anything for anyone else.

those of us that know better are already aware Hyper is awesome so i need not elaborate further.

I have been with my BF for almost a year. We used to work together (about 2 years ago) and I really didn't think anything would come of it. I was friends with him on facebook, and we went out once while working together, but it wasn't just the two of us; the a-hole I was dating at the time *had* to come with (he was controlling, emotionally abusive, and had me convinced that the bad things in the relationship were my fault.)

I broke it off with the a-hole several times; it was a very long, drawn out ordeal, I finally told him never to talk to me again, blocked him where I could, but still get txts and e-mails from him once a month or so (it's been about a year and a half, he's still contacting me)

because of the crap with the ex, as well as having lost my mom to cancer the previous December, the first few times he invited me out, I ended up canceling at the last second, because I was depressed, and had been, basically, taught and told that I wasn't good enough and could never be social because I "do it wrong". I was concerned I'd say or do something wrong, even though the invitations weren't actually dates.

He persisted, and since he and I had talked almost daily for two years, being the only two at work until closing, he knew that being socially adept is very difficult for me, and forgave it. When he finally convinced me to come out with him, I still didn't intend for it to be a relationship; he is 9 years my senior, is interested in a lot of things I am not (macho guy stuff, mostly, that I don't understand yet), and just really didn't seem like my type. It seemed our interest spheres were conflicting, but I figured hey, why not go have a good time with a friend, after all, I didn't honestly think he had any interest in me (his previous invitations were more "you need to get out more, you seem depressed.").

For about 2 mths I denied it was even a relationship; friends with bennies. (He doesn't know this, although I'm sure he wouldn't be terribly offended)

And then, it happened. He invited me to a family function for Thanksgiving, which I declined; too soon, WAY too many people (he is the baby of 7 at 32, all siblings have offspring) and again for Xmas/New Years (excuse was my mom passed in December the previous year, same reason I gave my family for not coming). Then I knew it was getting serious, and I didn't know what to do. I told him that if this were to continue, I'd need a few accommodations from him to ensure that everyone was as happy as they could possibly be; I need to be told if I've done something wrong as soon as I do it (when possible), in a calm, clear manor, and if I ask questions about it, I need the answers to be as clear as possible. I need to be able to ask questions about meaning and interpretation. I need patience, and lots of it. And I need to be able to apologize for behavior that I think is inappropriate in retrospect, even if it wasn't. He agreed, and has done remarkably well. We haven't had much in the way of disagreements, he tells me when I do things he doesn't like, and even offers me an alternative if he can think of one, he even goes so far as to tell me when things *aren't* my fault, such as this weekend, we went camping and he had just bought a replacement glass shade for his lantern, he put it under the picnic table to protect it from rain while we hung a tarp. The table was just slightly in the wrong place, so we had to move it, the lantern fell and the glass shattered. He kinda flipped, threw the lantern in the fire pit, cursed up a storm. I don't handle other people's emotions well; I can't tell if they are directed at me, or no-one, and I don't know what to do to help. I shut down a bit, and when he noticed, he hugged me, told me it wasn't my fault repeatedly, and moved on.

In return, I promised I'd be as blunt and honest as I could, while still carefully choosing my phrasing so as to negate as many interpretations as possible, and I have made it very clear that I do not speak or write with hidden meanings; if I say something, the literal translation is the correct one. I don't get jealous or insecure if he looks at/talks to/about other females.

At this point, he has shared many of his interests with me, and I have embraced as many as I can stomach, even if not for the same reasons he enjoys them (he races, and builds/fixes his own car, so I hang out, help when I can and ask a TON of questions about the how and why of things, for example) and I have shared many of mine with him (love of learning, all things educational and technological, etc.). Even though I was resistant, I really am glad I gave him a shot. So far, it's working out well ^_^

I am happy! Hurray!

I've been with the same guy for four years now ( off and on ) We've recently been making things healthier, we met at a young age 15 and 16 so at the time we both didnt have much relationship expriance. Just recently he found out he has Aspie symptoms and now I can understand him better and learn more. So slowly but surely things are getting healthier.

He's been so sweet to me, when I got my wisdom teeth removed he was SO sweet to me, even listened to me whine and cry ( something he normally can't handle well becuase it hurts him ) he's been working harder on his end of our relationship and spoils me with sweet talk

( mind you we are long distance as well 200+ miles apart, tho its only been a year being LD. Still its hard and we miss one another, hopefully I'll close the distance soon and I'll be moving to his city )

I've been in one for about 3 & a half months now. She messaged me after reading some of my post here. She's on the otehr side of the country from me but she came down here & spent over a week here with me & my parents & I went back with her & spent a week & half there. We were together offline for about 20 days. We haven't made plans to meet up again yet but we both defiantly want to.