Living as an adult male virgin, unable to cope

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I thought you said you wanted to lose your virginity.

Ahhhhhh....I'm a 25 year-old virgin and i feel the exact way! I guess one of the big reasons i still am a virgin was because my whole life i've been made fun of by bullies, relatives and even a girl i had big crush on because i was overweight....My relatives were always like you need to lose weight or no girl would ever like you! & i wasn't even that fat as a young kid/teenager, but they all made me feel like a whale! that mindset has been instilled in me and i am very self-conscious about how i look & i have like zero self-esteem and confidence, that combined with the fact that i was always pretty shy and quiet made things even worser for me and now i became an introvert with BAD social anxiety....right now i'm trying to "restart" me life...I've been watching vids like "simple-pickup" on youtube and i feel like i'm finally learning how to be a real man, because i never had a father figure/big brother during my teenage years to teach me....

In this day and age, from my experiences, it's a REALLY, REALLY, REALLY, REALLY REALLY embarrassing thing to be a guy virgin! all of society is revolved around "jersey shore" type of life-style with numerous rap/hip-hop songs about "f**** b*****s" that EVERYBODY i know listens to and watches, who except that as the ideal life...I've been shunned by all my male relatives, even ones i was really close to growing up...It hurts ALOT, there are really no words to describe the pain of being "left in the dust"....When i was like 16 one of my cousins even called me the "40 year-old virgin"....so yeah i've been dealing with the "virgin" thing for a long time....

I've been through quite a few traumatic experiences with girls, one of whom was a major crush who also liked me, invited me out to the movies then told me it was all a joke the last second....another one was when i was in the 5th grade...my friend made a rumor about me telling everybody that i wad going to invite this girl i had a HUGE crush on to my house to have sex, which was the FARTHEST thing from my mind...she confronted me in front of everyone at school, yelling her head off/cursing at me...then after school i went to that basterd friend's house and was going to beat the crap out of him but his sister answered the door pissed, yelling at me! saying that the girl and her mother, which they were somehow related to will go to my house to talk with my parents....of course, i almost dropped dead right there, but she said that she'll fix everything after she felt bad for me...sooooo yup.

Just to clear things up, I AM NOT UGLY....I've had instances where girls, some who were really hot, approaching me....I don't go out that much because i have no friends, but last time i went to a club was Halloween and not one but THREE hot girls approached me, one which was a HOT blonde, & one girl who was flashing her boobs in my face and the whole time i was like uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, what do i say/do?????....and today at panera bread a pretty girl was looking STRAIGHT at me and i tryed doing the "look her straight in the eye and smile" thing but i looked immediately away....too shy & embarrassed.

I feel like that guy from that movie "WarmBodies"....I feel like if i open my mouth i'll just grunt and moan like a zombie....

I have been thinking about an escort in but have no idea where to go to find one or what to do because i have no car.........I'm just really tired and sick of waiting for the "right" girl because 99.9% of girls go for the douchebags.......another option is going to a rave/college/house party and getting messed up like normal guys do and bang any chick there.....but i have no connections/friends.

SORRY FOR THE LONG POST!

Well, I am a 21 year old woman and I hate being a virgin too. You are not alone guys.
Although for me it's not about the sex, it's about the intimacy as a whole.

one reason why i don't see any shame of losing my virginity to a hooker/escort, is because, nothing is free in life, nothing is free in this world, that is a famous saying, nothing is free, even if it doesn't require money, you still had to do work and improvement in order to earn it, get it, so free sex is not really free sex

some thoughts- rubbers make the whole experience anticlimactic, especially if one is old like me and with reduced sensation to begin with, the rubber will filter out what remaining sensation there is. if you don't lose it in your 20s or 30s at the latest, AFAIC one might as well just give up and become a monk or settle for Suzie Silicone and porn. I was in my 5th decade and that was at least 20 years past my "sell by" date and without the fully functioning hydraulics and abundant testosterone [in the fifth decade of life, levels typically drop to 1/3 of their youthful level, and sex doesn't work at those reduced levels], it literally didn't work satisfactorily, even with the little blue pill. sexual thrusting is much more involved and demanding than rubbing out a cum outta willy with one's hand, all the spark plugs have to be firing in a row to make that piston stiffen up [and stay fully stiff] and stroke that cylinder long enough and expertly enough for all parties' satisfaction. but there is always the next life.

Who are you guys talking to? The OP hasn't been on WP for more than four years.

Oh.

I'm an adult virgin too and many days I'm not able to cope with the loneliness and depression.

I live a very socially secluded life and there are days where I can't take it anymore and I am really thinking about dying.

There are days when I feel so sad and angry and jealous over the fact that no pretty girl will ever want anything to do with me and will always reject me and go for other guys who are much better than me.

There are days where I really really want to die.

I mean what's the point of being alive on this stupid planet if I will never be able to have any positive interactions with girls (or with other people in general)?

I think I'd rather be dead and buried than keep living like this because I really can't stand the loneliness, the extreme isolation and the jealousy anymore.

I'll never understand the need to not be a virgin. What's so bad about it?

Society has brainwashed us into thinking what's normal