Mr. no text back has texted back.
Then I guess I would say, same here...but if he really wants to know how I'm doing and seems intrested I'll probably have more to say
it sounds like you're pretty much willing to forgive him no matter what.
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Then I guess I would say, same here...but if he really wants to know how I'm doing and seems intrested I'll probably have more to say
it sounds like you're pretty much willing to forgive him no matter what.
No not really, I am saying if he has a valid reason we can figure out where we want to go from there.
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Then I guess I would say, same here...but if he really wants to know how I'm doing and seems intrested I'll probably have more to say
it sounds like you're pretty much willing to forgive him no matter what.
No not really, I am saying if he has a valid reason we can figure out where we want to go from there.
but you're willing to accept almost anything as a valid reason. seems like he'd have to say something extremely cold or insensitive for you to cut him off.
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Then I guess I would say, same here...but if he really wants to know how I'm doing and seems intrested I'll probably have more to say
it sounds like you're pretty much willing to forgive him no matter what.
No not really, I am saying if he has a valid reason we can figure out where we want to go from there.
but you're willing to accept almost anything as a valid reason. seems like he'd have to say something extremely cold or insensitive for you to cut him off.
I don't know how maybe all that stuff he mentioned that he was having to deal with maybe being more on his mind then a girl he doesn't know much about and has only seen a few times...is necessarily the same thing as saying anything is a valid reason. I am saying that might be an understandable reason depending on what I find out.
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Then I guess I would say, same here...but if he really wants to know how I'm doing and seems intrested I'll probably have more to say
it sounds like you're pretty much willing to forgive him no matter what.
No not really, I am saying if he has a valid reason we can figure out where we want to go from there.
but you're willing to accept almost anything as a valid reason. seems like he'd have to say something extremely cold or insensitive for you to cut him off.
I don't know how maybe all that stuff he mentioned that he was having to deal with maybe being more on his mind then a girl he doesn't know much about and has only seen a few times...is necessarily the same thing as saying anything is a valid reason. I am saying that might be an understandable reason depending on what I find out.
there is not much we can say to you because you simply don't value yourself as highly as we think you should, so you'll not be able to see why he should have been treating you better. you are willing to put his needs above yours and nothing we can say will change that. even considering the possibility of contacting him again is sending the message that you are willing to be treated badly by him as long as you can hang with him at his leisure.
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I don't think I'm very well. My medication must be playing up. I'm agreeing with hyperlexian! Nurse! NURSE!
TBH Sweetleaf, you have a self-destructive mentality and anyone else's efforts in trying to combat that only makes you more entrenched in this frame of mind. There's nothing we can do.
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Then I guess I would say, same here...but if he really wants to know how I'm doing and seems intrested I'll probably have more to say
it sounds like you're pretty much willing to forgive him no matter what.
No not really, I am saying if he has a valid reason we can figure out where we want to go from there.
but you're willing to accept almost anything as a valid reason. seems like he'd have to say something extremely cold or insensitive for you to cut him off.
I don't know how maybe all that stuff he mentioned that he was having to deal with maybe being more on his mind then a girl he doesn't know much about and has only seen a few times...is necessarily the same thing as saying anything is a valid reason. I am saying that might be an understandable reason depending on what I find out.
there is not much we can say to you because you simply don't value yourself as highly as we think you should, so you'll not be able to see why he should have been treating you better. you are willing to put his needs above yours and nothing we can say will change that. even considering the possibility of contacting him again is sending the message that you are willing to be treated badly by him as long as you can hang with him at his leisure.
What makes anyone think I can even afford taking the bus to go hang out with him at his leisure......if he really wants to see me again the best I can do is meet him half way and have him pay most of my way, or if he wants to drive out to where I live and see me. If that's what he's about I can grantee he wont be trying to pursue me for long.
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I don't think I'm very well. My medication must be playing up. I'm agreeing with hyperlexian! Nurse! NURSE!
TBH Sweetleaf, you have a self-destructive mentality and anyone else's efforts in trying to combat that only makes you more entrenched in this frame of mind. There's nothing we can do.
All I am saying is maybe this guy wasn't using me and had a valid reason for not getting back to me until now....I don't understand why that would be impossible.
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Listen, there are many, many other guys out there and many of them will treat you better and give you equal respect. The message that you're sending him is that he is more important than you are. That isn't a good sign.
Honestly, your relentlessly depressive personality is what is leading you to these men. But what do I know?
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Listen, there are many, many other guys out there and many of them will treat you better and give you equal respect. The message that you're sending him is that he is more important than you are. That isn't a good sign.
Honestly, your relentlessly depressive personality is what is leading you to these men. But what do I know?
At the moment I don't even know why the hell he did not text me back, I would like to at least see what he says before jumping to any conclusions if that's ok with everyone.......sheesh.
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Sweetleaf, I agree with the sage naysayers here. The first thing I did when I read your original post is to look at the timestamp. He texted you on the cusp of Saturday night. What does that tell you? Anything?
I used to be you, a very long time ago. I'm glad those days are gone. Guess what? Every time a guy acted like this guy is acting with you, he was lying. *Every* *single* *time*. It actually gets easier to detect, over time, and now I just laugh when dudes try this s**t with me. It's "cute" in their 20s, it's absolutely pitiful in their 40s.
As an aside, I recently had a guy my age (mid 40s) tell me he just had a really intense dream about me. A guy I don't know very well at all. I just laughed and said, "Geez, I haven't heard that one since high school!" He was mortified that he was that transparent and got all flustered and defensive. If it had been true, he would just have been confused or would have walked away thinking, "huh, I guess our karmas *aren't* really intertwined".
Do you see what I'm getting at, here? We really are trying to help you, from our experience (either personal or observing).
I used to be you, a very long time ago. I'm glad those days are gone. Guess what? Every time a guy acted like this guy is acting with you, he was lying. *Every* *single* *time*. It actually gets easier to detect, over time, and now I just laugh when dudes try this sh** with me. It's "cute" in their 20s, it's absolutely pitiful in their 40s.
As an aside, I recently had a guy my age (mid 40s) tell me he just had a really intense dream about me. A guy I don't know very well at all. I just laughed and said, "Geez, I haven't heard that one since high school!" He was mortified that he was that transparent and got all flustered and defensive. If it had been true, he would just have been confused or would have walked away thinking, "huh, I guess our karmas *aren't* really intertwined".
Do you see what I'm getting at, here? We really are trying to help you, from our experience (either personal or observing).
But this guy is "different". He's probably "misunderstood", that's all.
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