I suspect there are many many married women out there who have Aspergers and don't know. But, I also think it is more likely for a woman with Aspergers to end up as a spinster than it is for an NT. My aunt is one of those (87, so no diagnosis of AS, diagnosis of bipolar). I'm one of the suspects too and I've been happily married for 17 years. I feel I was really lucky to meet my husband when I did. Had I not met him at 16, I don't know what life would have been like for me. I've never had to do the dating thing and I'm glad about that. I had one boyfriend before him and it lasted 6 weeks. I've seldom ever been hit on by a guy in all my 39 years (not that I'm looking to be chatted up, but the opportunities have been there and I'm not ugly).
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"We act as though comfort and luxury were the chief requirements of life, when all we need to make us really happy is something to be enthusiatic about." Charles Kingsley