Frieslander wrote:
She's a big girl. We've been hitting it off pretty well (infatuated, you might say). I've told her many bad aspects of myself. Today I mentioned the approx 1.5 months in an AFC. Suddenly the expression on her face changed. She admitted that she thought I was "aiming lower", that it made her feel good to think someone doesn't mind how slow she walks because of her weight, someone thought she was attractive.
A bit of a rough patch, here...
I don't mean this in an insensitive way, but, are you?
If that isn't the case, and you do actually like her, and would regardless of your current physique or life situation, then here is how I personally would address the situation.
I would not try to insist to he that it isn't the case that you are aiming lower and that you find her absolutely beautiful, because she would expect to hear that from someone who wasn't sincere just as much as she would from someone who was sincere, and there is no way for her to distinguish the two individuals and their intentions.
I would actually be a bit upset because what she doesn't realize is, by making the statement she did in reaction to some personal things about yourself you have told her, she implied that someone such as yourself could only get someone who she views as a less favorable pick.
I think I would probably tell her, kindly, that you are not a perfect person but you are also not a lesser person. I would say you are a respectable man who makes his own choices and decides his own likes and dislikes, and you decided you like her.