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I don't know people remember me, I used to post here quite a bit up until about 5 months ago. I took an extended break sort to speak. Nothings really changed; I'm still hideous, stupid, unclean, boring, uninteresting, lazy, and a pathetic loser.


I'm almost 26 and I still live with my parents, I have no formal education. (was in special ed until 9th grade then I dropped out, so I'm barely at a fifth grade level) I can barely do simple fractions and timetables

I am slow, (borderline ret*d) doctors classified me as developmental delayed as well as aspergers when I was younger. I'm hideously ugly, and I find most people of both genders are repulsed by me. I don't have any friends and I've never dated.

I don't really know how to properly bath myself. (and haven't attempt to in the past three months, and I've had the same underwear and gym shorts on since) I'm not charming and I lack knowledge in anything most people find interesting. (science, history, art, politics, philosophy, math, etc)

I have no talents or worthwhile skills, I'm living with my grandma basically because I have no concept of knowing how to take care of my self. (ie paying bills, feeding my self, keeping the house clean, survival in general, etc) If/when she dies, who would take care of me? (really scary to even think about)

I am a pathetic, lazy, porn addicted loser, that has spent the better part of the last 7-8 years locked up in the house playing video games and watching anime. ( my two main interests and loves)

Lately I've been playing mass effect. (I've been pretty addicted, I haven't bath since picking up ME3 on the midnight release over 3 months ago, haven't left the house since) I have all three games and in the past three+ months I've played through the trilogy at least 6-7 times. I'm currently on a play through right now. It seems now that I'm developing strong attraction to the female romance interests in the series (Ashley, Tali, Liara, and even Jack sometimes)

The sad thing about it is that even if anyone of them existed IRL I wouldn't have a punter's chance with any of them, even Jack who's probably more worse off than me.

What do you people think? I'm a good-for-nothing bum obviously right? One that deserves to be self-pitied and ridiculed. How many of you would want to hang out with someone like me? How many of you know anyone (male or female) that would want to even get within 20 feet of me let alone date and go out with someone like me.

What's the use of living when I have no hope of dating/making friends, being happy, or having a good future to look forward to.

Why isn't anyone replying? Are people just that sick of me? Not that I care anyway. I'm going to keep starting threads, it's not like I have anything else to do.

If you're able to write more or less grammatically correct, then I doubt you're borderline ret*d.

It's because we've all tried to help, multiple times, without success. And when we do, you get argumentative and insulting. The only things anyone can do to avoid a fight are to either agree with you, or not respond when you post stuff like this. Since most of us aren't liars, we choose to ignore rather than agree.

Well, I'm new, so I don't think you would know me. But you seem perfectly aware of the areas in your life where you want to improve. Those who I don't usually want to hang around are those who see nothing wrong with their bad habits. So as long as you show people that you are making an effort to change your ways, I'm sure they wouldn't mind. Every one has some dirty laundry that they want to hide from other people. Is that not the concept of the "Shadow"?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shadow_%28psychology%29

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I just think it's mind-bloggling that someone could read the OP and come away thinking the person in question had any chance at dating or making friends. I'm poor,ugly, and severely lacking in conversational skills. If by a minor (major) miracle that wanted to be around for more than a few minutes, we'd have nothing to talk about.

I'm almost 26 years old and still live with my parents. I can barely bath myself for god's sake. What girl/woman would want to date someone who only barely passed middle school WHILE in special ed. How many guys would go to public social places (club, bar, mall, parties, etc) with a ugly pathetic loser suck as myself.

What's the point of living if there's nothing worthwhile to look forward to.

You would have a chance, if you'd put some work into improving yourself. But, apparently, the thought of putting in even a tiny bit of effort is just horrifying to you.

You're right. It would seem very hopeless in that predicament.
But I'd either look at what of those things you could change, list them, then list ways on how, or ask advice on how, or simply find other interests.

There are plenty of fulfilled people out there who are loners in the sense of coupling.
There are other things to look forward to, you are just defining one thing to look forward to as everything to look forward to.

I can see this post backfiring but it's worth a shot. Things like this unfortunately don't fall on your lap, so sometimes a push helps (well, a shove!)

<----- Believes there's someone for everyone because there's no one who's so unique as to really be the only one of their kind. Just gotta look REAL HARD for your compatible partner.

A woman in the same situation could give you a chance. There are match-making bureaus for people with disabilities that can help you.

If you don't mind could you give me a list of those things. I mean I look forward to the new video games and systems that are coming out, as well new anime, but I don't think that's really the same. Sometimes I think about maybe having a wife and/or kids (then I quickly realize I can barely function and take care of myself, I don't really need the responsibility of having children.)

OK, so I'm new so I don't know what has gone on before. When I read your post I didn't really know what to say. There are clearly a lot of issues, some of which I can't relate to very well. I'm not sure that my advice is going to be of any use, but I shall try.

It sounds like there is so much that you are unhappy about that it must be hard to know where to start. If I were you I would start with the very basics, which is the washing. Is the problem a sensory one? If you tell us perhaps we can find a way to work around it. If it's an executive function issue (as in, you really don't know how to do it) I can write you out a whole step by step if you think that would help. After that we could work on the going outside, if you wanted to.

It's easier for us to help you if you tell us specifically what you want help with, I'm not great at understanding what people want unless they make it very clear.

What's horrifying for me is the awkwardness, (not knowing what to say at certain key moments) being ridiculed (sneakily, like people pointing and snickering, laughing at me behind my back for no reason, or just laughing at me while I'm talking, which is annoying and frustrating because I have no idea I did to cause that reaction. Are they just laughing at me because of the way my face looks and the way I talk.?)

Or just plain worrying about how I smell around people (Seriously every time I go out people tend to make a "sniffing" when they're around me. It makes me feel every anxious and self-conscious, and I feel the need to get out of the place I'm in as quickly as possible.)

Ok, so worrying about people teasing you is going to get you nowhere. You will never know the reason behind the laughter, but should have no reason to think it is you. Even if it is, just ignore it, you don't want to associate with people who would treat you like that.

If you're worried about your scent, that is legitimate, as personal hygiene is important when it comes to making friends. I mean, unless you meet someone who doesn't mind hanging around someone who smells funky... make sure you shower at least once a day. I don't know what could prevent you from doing that.

Sure. Some of them might seem really silly but I'm easily pleased

*My next meal
*Shopping
*New games, gadgets and animes (yup, me too lol)
*New things to talk about
*New things to learn
*New places to go
*New experiences
*More fortune

The past really has nothing left to offer me now, and I've been through my own hardships both emotionally and financially and have pretty much come to terms with them. At times I was starving, having to go miles to work by foot, stand all day and be abused by customers and staff alike for being British, or "half caste" or just too polite. Emotional trauma of thugs imposing on my life, debts, and completely failing relationships including with people that I didn't want to be with because was an insecure nervous wreck.

The present on the other hand offers me the chance to change my future, which is soon going to offer me a whole lot. All because I didn't hang on to my past. The past isn't all bad, though - it gives you these things:

*A thicker skin
*Experience
*(Some, varying between individuals) happy moments or fond memories
*Compensation (I am currently reclaiming charges and subscriptions I shouldn't have paid, and can't wait for the payout!)
*Knowledge

Last edited by JanuaryMan on 07 Jun 2012, 3:43 pm, edited 1 time in total.