Dump or Rejected a girl: Deserve to be alone

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I am at a point where a date is turning into a relationship. This doesn't happen that often. However I feel that though we get on very well, I feel she may not be the one for me. Also, the life changes are a little too much at the moment. I am at a point where I don't feel that lonely relative to what I used to. If I do break it up( if it can be called that at this stage), and if I feel lonely in future, I have myself to blame. I am sure many geeks on this site have felt the same way.

If I do spend time with her, I have less time to sell my books and hustle for money. Though the primary reason that I started doing this is to up my status to attract a woman. Is the journey better then the destination. Should I aim higher and get woman with aspergers or closer to the spectrum.

Make a pros and cons list. There might be a lot of stuff you're taking for granted now, being in a relationship, that you don't know you'll miss until it's gone. And how long will it take to start up a new, successful relationship?

But if you feel you'd be better off single, then don't string her along.

Just my advice.

EDIT: I know technically it's not an official relationship, but if that's how it feels, or if that's where it's going, you'll need to work this out. Maybe make it official to observe any other differences and see how you like it.

I think sudden moves are bad. Make note of your feelings and give yourself a timeframe. If things are the same at the end of that period you've got your answer. Relationships of all sorts have cycles and you want to get some perspective before making sudden moves.

Just my two cents.

Do you have any idea at all why your feelings for her aren't going the "right" way? Seems that although you haven't had any bad experiences with her, you just aren't feeling involved.

Maybe the chemistry just isn't right for you. A lot of this stuff is unconscious and you might never know why one lady hits the spot and another doesn't.

Me, I've never had a boring date or gf in my life. But that's probably because the women have nearly always been quite extreme, so they may have turned out to be a lot of things, but there was never a dull moment, that's for sure.

Are you perhaps sensing that she's getting involved and that's scaring you because you're not ready to follow suit?

You hint that she's NT..........is there anything NT about her that you don't like?

At the end of the day you pays your money and you takes your choice with partners. I know the dilemma - can't remove the ceiling without removing the floor too, unless you're extremely popular. Of course she's not the last fish in the sea, but if your partnering rate is as low as mine, you're bound to wonder if you're going to die of old age before you find one you can settle with.

I don't know what the answer is to the partnering rate thing. I don't think it would be all that difficult to get to rub shoulders with a lot more women, just by tweaking the lifestyle, but my experience is that they run a mile at the first whiff of competition, so I can shoot myself in the foot just by having too many female friends. Just like the buses, I wait for years, 4 turn up at once, the drivers see each other and go straight by without stopping because they can see I'm spoilt for choice.