How to quit thinking about finding a date?

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Hello,
I keep having a problem. I have this cycle where I could get a rip about dating, then be interested in dating like nothing else. I want to keep a straight head about it, but often times I am kind of depressed about not really hanging out with anyone and I see other people dating and I tend to get a tad jealous. Normally I try to shrug it off, and I would try to work on some idea for a business on my pc or maybe play a video game and sometimes program. But at the current moment I am borrowing someone's netbook, which is great for programming and checking a few things, but as far as things that I would pour myself into (with the exception of programming), I can't really do much (like as far as games or business ideas, which I normally work on when I am kind of love sick). But since my pc needs some repairs, and I am waiting on the repair kit to come, how can I get these thoughts out of my head? Comedy helps a tad, but when you have this stuck in you head, it really is lame. So any thoughts? How would you proceed?

You need another passion.

I get over people by concentrating on another love of mine - websites

I do try to walk (often times up to 6 miles), but often times I think about the future. And to answer the question about getting a new hobby. I am trying to learn a few new programming languages, so that should still keep me busy. I guess I want to not think about it, since that usually solves itself when you do that. But I just keep thinking about the slight embarrassment of not getting past the first date. And normally I would be working on this one business idea or programming, or reading a few of my fav web sites. But it seems like the only things that tend to pacify me is either working on my ideas, games, and to a lesser extent programming. But I don't want them to become vices and become necessary for me to survive, because when that happens, it makes times when they are gone lame. So what can I do to get it out of mind?

I do try to walk (often times up to 6 miles), but often times I think about the future. And to answer the question about getting a new hobby. I am trying to learn a few new programming languages, so that should still keep me busy. I guess I want to not think about it, since that usually solves itself when you do that. But I just keep thinking about the slight embarrassment of not getting past the first date. And normally I would be working on this one business idea or programming, or reading a few of my fav web sites. But it seems like the only things that tend to pacify me is either working on my ideas, games, and to a lesser extent programming. But I don't want them to become vices and become necessary for me to survive, because when that happens, it makes times when they are gone lame. So what can I do to get it out of mind?

luck. its about as likelyto work as other things mentioned

Lift heavy weights up and put them down.

Find out what else stimulates your mind (and other bits) besides your preferred sex, and find an activity that relates to it.