how to be an active woman on online dating site(for men too)

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These advices are for women to apply. They are also for men to read but not apply; if you are a man and run in to these behaviors, she could be hopping you'll respond. (edited 20/07/2012)

*Look several times an interested profile (not obsessively). He'll get it, that you are hopping he will message you. Gave up after a certain time.

*Send a wink. Its a bit more overt. He knows that you are interested in him.

*Just go for it and send a message. A short one, or very short one, it shouldn't have much real content. Send several if necessary. The advice to men is to send long messages if they are really interested to a girl. It doesn't apply to women.

*Have multiple targets. Expect and get used to rejection.

*Men expect that on online sites, women never do anything. Keep that in mind and persist if necessary until he gets it, or you get it that he REALLY isn't interested in you.

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The theory of real life. Men are hunters by nature. Normally, women try to excite the predator nature of men. They actively try to attract the best males for them selves, but not in an overt way. This is why they decorate them selves, play week, play hard to get, are very subtle in letting a man know they are interested. If too overt, the man feels hunted. There's also the issue of good genes. Women don't really just do nothing.

For aspies: aspie women generally don't do anything, in general they can get away with it because of the "predator" nature of men. Aspie men don't handle well this subtle way of flirting from women in real life, its a mess.

The practice of online dating: Women on online dating sites just rely on there profiles and sit on there hands. Almost all of them do that, NTs, aspies, cat girls, fairies, etc. What is done in real life isn't transposed in online dating, its not apparent what they must do, because online dating is too new in our culture. NTs, kind of become "aspies" in online dating sites.

For aspies: In practice its/willbe a life boat. When done correctly, the playing field is/willbe leveled.

The advices are specific for WOMEN to apply. You are a dude. They don't apply them in general, in general they just rely on there profile.

If a woman see several times your profile, in a relatively prolonged time, it could mean they hope you'll message them. However this is almost never applyied, they don't know the trick. This is why i present the list. Women just assume they know they must do nothing, when in fact they could do something.

I'm saying, they should apply them. Not just sit on there hands.

The point is, that the rules for women and men are different. Women don't know anything, because its too new in our culture. Winks and several little messages its for the women, not the dudes.

It's awesome to see how many aspies here have good advice about online dating.

Women get messages like employers get job applications in a recession, most employers don't to sit there and read an essay.

If you really want to stand out, just go and do real life approaching. If you have poor game and social skills in real life, they aren't going to improve over the internet and when you do go on a date, it will be evident that you have a lack of social skills if you have built an internet persona for yourself.

I dont exactly agree with this "catch me" approach that women are suppose to do. I know I do run into trouble, I'd perfer at least a semi-aggressive approach when going after men.

I read that women often do initiation contact but they do it in subtle ways. Like flirting, smiling, eye contact, etc. They dont actually ask the guy on a date for instance. And they have to act like the guy made initiative.

Yeah men are hunters by nature, but hey I am too. That's just my opinion cause all this gender role playing crap is BS. Why cant both genders go after both genders.

But as for the initial advice, a wink might actually be a good way of signifying a guy that your potentially interested. And don't message the person more then once if they don't reply. This goes for anyone girl or guy. Because you just come off as desperate and annoying.