Kissing Issues

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Does anyone feel completely lost when it comes to kissing? I've only kissed one girl in my life, but we were in a relationship for two years. She eventually admitted after the first year that she didn't like kissing me and that I kiss "like a dead fish. Ever since, I've been really self conscious and uncomfortable with kissing. It just seems like something that doesn't come naturally to me and I can't figure out how to do it right. Anyone else have this problem?

My last girlfriend told me I was an amazing kisser, and also many other girls, so unfortunately I don't share the problem, but I probably have lost my touch.

Here's a tip, just very lightly bite at her bottom lip every now and again, don't let your tongue just hang there, use a little tongue (you're sharing mouth bacteria when you kiss anyway, so why is a little tongue going to make a difference?) with hers, and just practice.

Practice on your hand

http://youtu.be/MEcr5j4C8Qc I found a video for you that basically explains everything I said. The woman's voice is really annoying, beware!

Last edited by MightyMorphin on 22 Jul 2012, 4:29 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I never liked kissing to begin with.

a ping-ponging back and forth communication process, both sensory and communication

where you also remain open to receiving

inherently nonperfectionist (and that's kind of the zen of it! )

This is also good advice, for this can be one thing which gives a set of skills, and from which you can use in the back-and-forth communication/sensual process.

I really enjoy kissing a lot, it's a very pleasurable sensation to me. Unfortunately, I've only kissed two people so far, a man and a woman. And I didn't know what to do, I just let them take the lead. I watched a lot of videos, read tutorials, but I still cannot translate what I've learned into practice and I do not understand just how to practice on my hand... Oh well, maybe if I get into a real relationship, I will learn then how to do it...

I'm paranoid about being a bad kisser and no one telling me
I haven't had any complaints but so much anxiety omg

From the complaint you received, it sounds like you had a lot of open mouth and loose lips.
My advice to correct this would be to try to keep a tighter ombrochure (make a kissy face) and focus on the lips/external, let your partner take the lead on any tonging initiative.

I've only kissed three girls so far in my life.

I can only guess if they/I thought I was a good kisser.

although on one road trip when we were on the topic of oral dexterity a female said I'd a make a girl very happy,

so maybe I'm a great kisser

I'm only eight years younger and I've only kissed three girls in my life as well. But my most recent ex (whose sexual appetite I could not feed) said I was not a great, but awesome kisser. She might have used the word "great" to describe it. At the time, comparing myself and her only ex at the time, I was the better kisser. So for having Asperger's, it's a source of pride to be a great kisser.

I think I'm either a good or not-so-good kisser, depending on who I am kissing. Sometimes they way the other person kisses just doesn't work with the way I kiss, and so I can't do it so well.

Find someone whose kiss matches your kiss and voila! Kiss bliss!

It's pretty weird-
I imagine an alien observing human practice and describing it in detail.

I'm okay at it. I think.
Unless one is choking someone with your tongue, covering them with extraneous spittle, or bruising them, I tend to think at worst you could be called "boring".

Although as an avid lover of garlic and onion, things of a breath-related nature do make me paranoid about it. The fact that I have no sense of smell and so could for all intents and purpose be rocking some dragon breath and be oblivious to it makes it far worse.

I'm wondering how you can discern that without having shared one first

By "find", I meant kiss them and see.

Let's see how many ladies I can smooch in the mall before getting tossed in the klink! *drive-by smooch!*

In all seriousness, I loved kissing - especially the one I love! Gawd how I miss it... [wistful sigh]

If you can do the "arrghh-why-is-this-person-coming-at-me-with-their-lips?!" smooch, I'm sure you will have plenty of matches!!

So if I develop the perfect kissing match to her "puckered frown of revulsion" not only will those kisses turn out great, I could become the hero of WP!! YAY!!

I may well need a costume for this... leaving the lips free, of course!