AutisticBelle wrote:
transfomingcar, I find your posts rather disturbing. Your attitude is severely pessimistic and your focus is only on a romantic connection. You will never be happy this way because there is and always will be more to life than romance.
Though I am no expert, ss far as I can tell, you don't respect yourself. I don't care if you love yourself or not, because that is not as important as respect, but if you don't respect yourself, how can you hope for anyone else to respect and love you? And before you say that you have never been respected or loved in your life, that all those anonymous people who have treated you like dirt have destroyed you, I feel I must point out that they don't matter. Change starts with yourself, not with other people. Change yourself.
Stop blaming people, animals and the universe in general for your lot in life. And, good Lord, how on earth is society to blame and why are you so important it has a vested interest in your continued unhappiness? Please get over yourself, because that attitude is only annoying and not sympathetic at all.
You have no one right now, so you had better start living for yourself until that special someone comes along. If you don't live for yourself first, especially when you currently have no one else to live for, then what are doing? Drifting? Simply existing for the sake of existence? I can think of nothing more empty and meaningless than that.
And why are you more deserving of love than any other Average Joe out there? Again, why are you so important? What reason is there for your romantic fulfillment to be on the universe's priority list? Work for it yourself.
Stop obsessing over what other people think of you, and start working towards being a better, happier person on your power. Don't expect all your ducks to waddle into a row without any effort on your part. DO somthing.
And as other people have pointed out, there are different kinds of love. Familial love, love for animals, love for art or love for whimsy. Love for the world in general, if you want. Don't delude yourself into thinking that romantic love is that only kind that counts.
And before you rant at me, as you have done to so many other perfectly polite people, I also want to find love. Its what I dream of. I want someone who will love me and hold me, and genuinely care about and respect me. I want him to love my flaws as much as my virtues, be willing to argue if I'm wrong, listen if I'm right and help me reach my goals. But finding this person is not the sole reason for my continued existence. I have many goals, many dreams, some more important than others. I know I will be happy without a life-mate, perhaps less than I would be with one, but I will be happy. And even if and when I find this person, I will still be my own person, and have a life besides clinging to him every second, and drawing every breath for his sake. And I hope he will think the same.
And before you throw up your terrible past as a defense, I will point out that terrible things happen to everyone. I have lived a nightmare, I know what its like to be torn to sheds from the inside out, but I am working past it. I absolutely refuse to wallow, because then the people who have hurt me so deeply win, and I lose everything, even more than what they have intended. And I, as someone who has been hurt and terrified and humiliated, find it insulting when others who have suffered similiar things refuse to move ahead. And worse, when they use their suffering as an excuse. Its weak and disrespectful, to yourself and others.
Find a cause other than finding the love of your life. Find some other reason to live, because then, when that person finally comes along, your life will only be that much more fulfilling.
And have patience. No love blossoms overnight. You sound as young as I do, and even if you are not, you still have a good long life ahead of you. Make it count.
I'm sorry if my honesty insults you, but please, consider what I have said? I might be annoyed with your attitude, but I don't want you to unhappy. What I have said is the truth. What other people have said is the truth. The truth hurts, but it also helps and heals. Don't disregard it.
oh, wow... your arugment is so invaild. I will say one thing, don't go and suicide yourself. now in my case, I'd much rather be die in an "accident" or... I'd pefer to get my revenge on the idiots who destroyed my life, Then, I'd set something up that would end the pain.
so, i don't have much for options, although I don't want to die. but anyway, and to be honest, the "average joe" as you call them, are the kind of people who constantly torture and torment me, just becuse I have the capacity for sensitive feelings which they do not.
now, clearly you don't understand how bad it hurts... all I've been through. I'm getting quite disgusted by all the hate you and so many others have for my existence, after all the horrible things this world had done to me, and I mostly mean the town I live in, I most certainly derserve what I want and need, the people, who tormented me so, they owe me quite alot. They took away everything, I never took anything from them. and lastly, if you don't understand how important love really is... then you don't deserve to find love, and that goes for anyone and everyone, who refuses to accept the importance of true love. I am becoming sick of your negetiveity towards love. it's clear to me now, I am one of the few who truely understands the value of love, and as such, I am one of the few who actually deserve it.
unless you can prove otherwise, in a reasonable manner. I will thank you for just one thing, You've made it so very clear, and what is clear, is that I truely am the only one who understands, who cares, who needs, who feels, who loves, Only I will ever know the truth, as the world has been blinded, perhaps it is not your falt, that you lack the capacity for love, yet that is how it is, I know should feel bad or you, and I most certainly do. if only I could remove the blindfold from your eyes, then maybe there would be hope or this world....
06 Aug 2012, 9:05 pm
