any men here been used by a women

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Phah! I've seen enough on this site alone to know that's not true. Pity none live anywhere near me!

So did I ! !

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Sure are. There are good people everywhere...you just need to find them. That's my problem

People are a mixture of good and bad. You have to work out if you are prepared to tolerate the bad stuff to get the good. I think it's better on the whole to get experience of some kind, whatever it is, rather than holding out forever for the perfect person who probably doesn't exist, as you can learn from experience.

Yeah because women are absolutely perfect and without fault.

I'm failing to follow your logic here

I am a woman who was recently USED 'emotionally' and financially by her aspie boyfriend..now ex boyfriend.

I think it would be unfair to generalize and say all aspie men are creepy sleazy cads.


Both sexes are capable of incredible goodness or incredible evil.

I would be crying my eyes out if I had been used by a woman.

^^ Can't argue with that! Sorry you went through that - hang in there - we're not all like that.

He sent me here to WP to learn. I did and went in with high hopes for it to work out.
I'd never hesitate to date another Aspie-however, I think I got fooled by the whole, 'I am a shy nice aspie guy, please take care of me'...thing.

He was rather sly, cunning and a downright pillock.

What can you do if you are used? Learn what you can, pick up what is left of your self esteem and pride and move on. Realize you are not bad person, but the USER is.

good luck to everyone looking for 'love' and companionship.

That sucks. I was used by this aspie guy that I dated for a few weeks because I think that he just wanted me to sleep with him. Thank God that I didn't. He was a sleaze bag, although I don't think all aspie men are sleaze bags. There are plenty of guys here that seem decent. He also seemed a bit into partying. Not my thing. At least he wasn't my boyfriend, so I don't miss him.

That's your problem.

Dude - you have a horrible, HORRIBLE attitude. If you're that bitter about love and dating - why the hell are you even in here??

Go back to your solitude and let us try and figure this puzzle out without your toxic negativity.

As bad as some of you might think this is, I know people that use their acquaintences for things.

1. Drunk people need ride to the bar, they have an acquaintance that happens to be a cab driver who will charge less. Drunk people use this cab driver.
2. The student in your class in high school/college who always gets near perfect marks on assignments and tests and of course, you will want to partner up with that person if you want a better mark.
3. I work for the Licqour Control Board of Ontario (LCBO) and we have stores that sell alcohol (the only stores other than the Beer Store Retail that sells alcohol in Ontario). If i were to get discounts, I guarantee you I would have countless acquaintences that would use me to get discounted alcohol. Thank god discounts are illegal in this setting and that I don't have them.

Of course the acquaintence is being used, and somewhere down the line he will feel entitled to something in return, and of course may come across as creepy for expecting a favour in return. Ie. the cab driver example. I know a friend who has used a cab driver to get cab rides to get her from place to place. The cab driver has attempted to hook up with her to not only get shot down, but almost lose his job over it for trying.

I think perhaps that you need to learn how to set and enforce boundaries. You should decide if you are interested in a woman as a friend or as a girlfriend fairly early in the relationship. If you decide you are interested in her as a girlfriend, then don't sit there listening to her like a therapist for months or years on end while you wonder when she is going to fall in love with you. Communicate to her your intentions fairly early in the relationship, and if she's not interested, don't stick around and pretend to be her friend with the hopes that she'll change her mind. If you do stick around, be a real friend, with no ulterior motives, and pursue other romantic relationships. If you have a friend who's a female and she keeps going on about her big bad boyfriend who you think is a jerk, just tell her directly that you think he's a jerk, or tell her "Sorry" and change the topic.

You need to communicate to women your intentions and when they are throwing too much of their emotional baggage on you.