What type of people you attract/ What you don't attract.

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In the past I tended to attract manipulative women who weren't truly interested in me.Now,I don't give those types a second thought.At the first sign of disinterest I am gone.

I seem to attract a lot of people obsessed with paranormal topics, religious fanatics, or people that want to involve in a shady multi-level marketing scheme.

I attract
-nerdy/geeky guys
-friendly extroverts
-some smart extroverted jocks, and I don't know why
-many manipulative guys
-flirts
-men old enough to be my grandpa
-guys who play video games and do drugs

I don't attract
-book smart introverted guys
-emo guys
-guys in a popular crowd
-rich guys

I realised today (probably after seeing this thread at the top again) that I seem to attract boyfriends, potential partners and platonic friends of both sexes who are hyper-critical towards me. People who try to make me feel wrong for liking things I like, nag, make helpful suggestions that are actually quite rude, pressurise me, try to change me, and make me feel like I am never good enough.

Then after it all ends I'm devastated as I feel I ruined things and it is all my fault they went off with someone else. If only I could have been better they'd still be there.

Unfortunately after my upbringing I do have the constant fear of never being good enough and I seem to attract, and be attracted to, people who confirm this. I'm annoyed it has taken me so long to realise I keep getting myself into these unhealthy situations. But now I need to figure out why I do it. The only thing I do wrong is feel attracted to such people in the first place!

Married bi-sexual men who want to use me as their experiment/outlet.

ATTRACT
* The majority of them are extremely wealthy professional men - doctors, lawyers etc (UK earnings £80k-£100k in their late 50s). I'm 36 - I know it sounds ungrateful as there would be lots of women who like these sorts, but I am only sexually attracted to people around my own age or slightly younger.
* I also attract a large number of barely literate, obese men who get very angry when I turn them down.
* Young men in their early 20s (mostly students), who I hypothesis wish to get "experience" with an older woman.
* Whilst I'm walking about in the streets, drunks and tramps often try to grab me
* A surprising number of transvestites and transexuals. I am not usually attracted to them but I have made friends with some of them. They understand what it is to feel like an outsider on the dating scene.
* Much younger women late teens to early 20s - some of them quite physically attractive - they are usually quite liberal with the compliments, but they are too young for my tastes. (I am bi but I am more attracted to men than women overall).
* BDSM men who want to spank me - eek! Not my thing.
* Couples who wish to have a threesome. Definitely not my thing
* Goths
* Extremely conservative Muslim men.

DONT ATTRACT
* Usually, that which I like which is a shy genius (or just pretty damn smart) scientist slightly geeky man or for women I like the super-witty sassy type.
* Usually, people my own age

I am attracted to females, but I tend to attract males. I am white and most of the men I attract are black. I am quiet and most of the people I attract seem to be outgoing. They also seem to be skeevy, but that could just be my interpretation of them.

Funny how its easier to name people that are not attracted to you...


I Attact...

-Girls who are attracted to me

-Girls who are non-conformists

-ManEating Sharks, Lions, Bears






I do NOT attract

-Big Black Girls (I guess opposites don't attact}

-Basketball Players

-Any girl who is not attracted to me

-Girls who don't like short white guys (probably basketball players)

IRL:When i sit and wait for a buss or a train, i attract people who are odd and openminded. I have no problem with that.

On dating sites:, i get contacted by single moms with 497934782479 screaming kids (i have sensory issues and i'd rather commit seppuku than to have a kid), halfwitts who smoke/do drugs and think that all men are ok with that.

What i do not attract on dating sites: Serious girls/women who want a serious relationship and that i can be in the same room with.

I attract:

-Hipster women {I kid you not.}

-Teenage girls who mistake me for a teenager, but get angry when I tell them my age and tell them to go away
{I kid you not either.}

-Gay men

-Women who smoke

-Flirts

-Conspiracy Theorists


I don't attract:

-Any girl who's not attracted to me

-People my own age

-Liberals

-Introverts

In my youth I attracted the bad boys - thought I was cool, but ended up being mind numbingly bored, and outgrew the type.
Then I thought I liked traditional and clever guys - and the same thing happened.
I've been happy for years with my partner, who is a mix of everything I like best. Being a muso, he is often onstage doing muso things, so I spend the evening semi-solo.

But the recurring bane of my life - in every age and scenario - is Party Guy.
You know the one - trying to focus his way through the crowd, staggering a bit.
Everyone else seems to emit Party Guy repellent except me, so he rebounds like a sodden pinball straight for me, sloshes his drink on my foot, and utters, having dropped most of his consonants en route, "Yawannadance?"

There is no avoiding him, he takes the words "When hell freezes over" as gracious acceptance, grabs my arm and lurches onto the dance floor.
I have found the only escape is to grin weakly, twirl and jig a bit, and thrust him into some other poor dancer's arms.
Then head for the bar like a rabid stoat.
Does anyone else always get Party Guy?

Historically I have a great proclivity for attracting men I am either repelled by or feel nothing for. Guys I wanted never wanted me. They would tell me right to my face "I"m not attracted to you." This made me feel repulsive and I nicknamed myself "the man repellent". Convinced at the age of twenty that I was destined to die alone with fifty cats or something, I dated, got impregnated by and married the first guy who was not completely ugly who showed any interest in me even though I was never in love with him. The marriage produced four kids and lasted thirteen years but ended in divorce. Literally days after my husband threw me out, I met the man of my dreams, who I am married to today. He is gorgeous looking and we both felt strong attraction to each other from the minute we met. Perfect a match as he is for me though, my husband falls into the typical criteria pattern of men who like me....financially poor, and has psychological issues, but I don't imagine I would ever find someone else I feel so strongly for that feels the same way so I just accept the bad with the good. I still for the record, attract men I do not find attractive, even though I am married and not interested. I often wonder why it is this way?