I told my partner, when we were planning children. I dont mind about my issues, because I dont need my partner to tell him about them, he can see that himself and decide on his own if he thinks its ok for him or not to stay with me. So he maybe didnt know that there was a diagnosis called Aspergers, but he definitely knew that I was weird. So there was no need to tell him that I am weird, when he knows anyway.
I told him, when we were planning children, simply because he knew that I was weird and had chosen to stay with me, but he did not know, that my kind of weirdness could be inherited. So he needed to know, because elseway he could not have been free to decide if its ok for him, that his children may get weird as well. Generally I am not into that "Oh my god, my child must have my own DNA, or I am not able to love it as my child." issues, so I also told him, that if he would not have liked to have children with me with the risk for Aspergers, than an "artificial" child with the DNA of another woman would have been no problem for me. (My english is bad, so a donated female eggcell and the sperm of my partner, and then the united stuff would have gotten into my womb.) But he simply joked, that there are much worse things in the world then silent children that read all day. XD So I told him, that Aspergers is not related to being silently, but he informed himself and meant it is ok for him, so ok. If our first child is going to be the antichrist, we still can choose the artificial female-DNA stuff for the second child.