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You left out the part where I noted Fnord was only making an observation and not invalidating your right to feel down about things that you have all the reason to feel down about. Then again I guess if you quoted that it would defeat your own argument.

I've learned alot, actually, more about what a "nice guy" really is, and what "confidence" really is.

That confidence is more than not being afraid to ask someone out, rather than being comfortable with yourself and your actions, and not being afraid to make decisions.

The "nice guy" stereotype is more than just oh he's just nice, he doesn't like to fight, or he's a bit shy, I don't like him, it's more, I think he expects s**t from me for him being nice and it's annoying as f**k, so I don't like him.

I don't want to attack other people's lack of confidence, so I won't, but point being, women feed off the energy of when someone else is comfortable with themself, so, I learned to love myself and not complain about my comedic love life. Nobody wants to hear about it.

I don't think confidence is necessarily becoming comfortable with yourself, rather, it's being comfortable with other people. For example, those cute, shy guys who like being around people...will put themselves down in a somehow socially acceptable way and yet people go, "Aww, don't worry" and even the men sometimes join in, and these shy people are usually really well-liked.

...Then you get the "creep" (like me) who hesitates to talk to people, and is considered weird. And yet, sometimes these people (like me) quite like who they are.

I have learned stuff from this forum before, especially reasons how and why aspies distance themselves. It helped me a lot to understand a relationship I was having where this aspie guy insisted I stayed with him and yet he seemed to feel the tiniest bit of pressure meeting me. That was the most confusing relationship I've ever had, but it made a lot more sense when I read some posts on here by some aspies. I can't remember the titles.

I've also learned how there has been some women who post on here who mistake their partners treating them like crap for someone with AS. Well, I suppose they could have AS, but it's usually that the partner is disrespecting her. I've also noticed how much patience some NT women on here have - the amount they put up with...such as no calls, even no contact for days or weeks and yet they stick with their AS guys. I just don't have that patience.

Yeah, I agree. That is pretty cool, both the real matches and the imagined ones in my head. (Occasionally, I notice people on this site I think might be compatible and part of me wishes so badly that I could set them up. )

My first appearance here.

I figured blueroses vision was to make a positive thread where people were shown good things happening to us and make this place a bit better, if it was not then I guess it can go wherever it may Also, I wonder if I am noticeable enough for she to lurk me and match me

I actually miss the guy JanuaryMan and Viper seem to hate though, sometimes he did contribute usefully, even if it was self-promoting, but I won't dwell too much on it.

^ tech is not rich so blueroses is wrong

Guess I'm missing an inside joke here? Anyhow, I threw Tech out there mainly just because I thought I remembered her saying that she thought he was good-looking, but maybe I'm confusing Smudge with someone else.

I suddenly feel like I've been away from this forum for a very long time, although my first indication of that really should have been a few posts back when I was left wondering who Kinme and Scuba Steve were, lol.

Thanks, January. All is well; we recently celebrated our one year anniversary.

How about that one time that scubasteve ended a year-long hiatus from the site to thank januaryman for the shout out