The reason why many are single

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Me, because people deliberately avoid me because they think I'm a maniac.

Also, remember the diagnostic ratio is significantly less for women(4:1 M/F). Probably due in part to the fact that non-diagnosed autistic women often have NT boyfriends/husbands which makes them appear to be more normal on the surface.

I mean, I have no such luck because I don't know how to ask ANYONE to be my GF, like my old grade school friend.

What is the real reason then for most?

The reason why most people are single is because... (drum rolls)


They don't know how to take their clothes off and touch each other right!

Here's an article that touches on what I mentioned: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-22012957

^Human relationships have always been, in part, economically driven. Even back in the days of cavemen it's the Alpha Male who wins the girl, because he's the big strong protective provider. Now we measure it a little more indirectly in terms of socioeconomic status as men aren't battling each other and beasts in order to bring food home for the fire, they're earning money - so the more money someone has, the better a provider they are, and thus the more attractive they are to others. But it's still really all the same thing, it's just that now it's not just braun that can win the women via being the biggest fastest strongest Alpha Male, it's largely brains that can acquire large sums of money in order to boost one's socioeconomic attractiveness.. hence so many scrawny geeks earning tons of money & attracting beautiful partners.

I think people are become too sensitive and have had their backbone nerfed in planet Earth patch 2.1.

In the patch notes it declares:

- Common sense nerfed.
- Reaction time nerfed.
- B.S. Detectors nerfed for most classes except for INTJ and INTP classes.
- Honesty nerfed
- Horrified reactions towards honesty buffed by 25%
- Deception ability for social wizards buffed by 50%
- Mindless Follower skill buffed by 45% Anyone who has not experienced this effect is a hacker and will be nerfed out of existence.


More nerfs and buffs will occur when the management feels like it.

-Thanks

I did not have my first girlfriend till I was 27 because of my Aspergers. I ended up Marrying that women. I would not be married if it wasn't for a close family that set us up. I have no problem dating women I'm set up with but, never able to go out and find one In The club.

well, I think the more simplistic version of that is:

Many autistic people can't work or can't keep a job for long, and people consider those who can't work or can't hold down a job to be "losers", regardless of the reason. They're not even likely to be sympathetic to disability reasons of unemployment (including autism).

well, duh. And why should they? (accept any/all of that.) Seriously. Think about it. How are any of those character/life flaws attractive in the least bit? It's perfectly understandable why someone wouldn't want to date someone who wasn't able to cope with the basics of life as people are all looking for someone to better themselves, not bring them down.

I say this having been someone who was much lower functioning in life than I am now, especially for a 3-4 year or so period. I wasn't capable of working/holding down a job, had a horribly negative mindset, and was quite out of shape.. and thus was unattractive to others. Now that I'm happier, healthier, fitter, and back to work full time.. things are looking up. I'm certainly more attractive to others, but still holding out for the one person in my life I'd like to be with as I continue to work on improving myself in every way I can.

Because the person in question still has some income for things like paying rent, etc. I suspect when NTs hear someone say "I don't have a job" they subconsciously assume the person has no income to speak of even if they get SSI benefits or something.

Their standards are too high
They have no people skills

I think those two reasons sum it up for the majority of people who are always single, who don't want to be.

Do you flirt? Maybe the guys assume you are unavailable.

My reasons for being single:

1- Autistic and socially awkward, nearly no one likes me as a person, and who would want a relationship with an a**-hol* like me.
2- Hypersensitive: can't stand hugs, kisses, hand holding, just about anything else...
3- Aromantic.
4- Gender defiant. Most people demand gender stereotypes.
5- Nerdy, obsessed with projects, doing my own things.
6- Can't stand nagging and prying.
7- Not interested in being a follower/servant.
8- Requires stimming time and wind down breaks.
9- Not interested in trying to pretend to be NT.
10- Don't want children or STDs or drama.
11- Employment difficulties, mainly because of #1, also #4.
12- There is more on the list but these are more than enough already.

If we're going to equate income level to attractiveness.. receiving a very small sum of government assistance income in order to survive month to month isn't exactly the kind of money that others seeking a provider are going to find attractive. Sure, it's better than nothing all - of course - but it's not exactly the kind of income where someone else can look over and think, "if I were with that person, we could live a good life together on their income." Even though people don't think in those exact words, they do think in those terms. SSI benefits or something is not exactly "the good life," money.. not by the furthest stretch of the imagination.