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Ummm, prostitutes exist, that's what nordmann's comment was about. Using a prostitute. I'm guessing prices vary drastically depending on where you are. It didn't seem like a racially biased or hateful comment to me at all. No wait, it was a hateful comment about psychiatrists. And as medical professionals who are probably just as subject to the whims of big pharma as other doctors, which affects everything from their studies to what they prescribe, I concur.

But it doesn't surprise me that the same people who are horrified that someone bring up their own dark thoughts about something that, to the OP, is a non-issue now (that's why they even could manage to bring it up in the first place I gather), would then get upset at the much more healthy way the person deals with their sexual urges as that too being too horrifying also.

Face it nordmann, nothing you can say will change their minds now, you're an evil person, any sexual thoughts or urges you have are evil, the way you have sex with hookers is evil and your opinions about disliking rape yourself will be ignored.

Fine, thing is, that I personally find it very offensive to imply that men get rape ideas due to lack of sex; there was once a female user said (I think it was you Ann) that men with no sex life have lower self-control and lower sense of what's wrong and right, I found this pretty offensive too.

I dunno where you get all those correlations, either you can read minds or I am not that sexual after all.

The OP never said that lack of sex leads to rape. The OP just said ever since he had sex, he has not had those episodes. He also said he prefers prostitutes that act as a girlfriend. He still isn't asking for rape stories as if they excite them.

All of these points lead me to believe he either had the beginnings of OCD, or that he had a possibility to become a predator but didn't.

God forbid people with OCD tell their thoughts here. I've had thoughts of brutally murdering someone. I've had thoughts about rape, raping people, molesting children, and others. Yet, I find these things horrible, similarly to how the OP finds rape horrible. Now, I've never calculated the risks of doing such a crime as the OP did, true. However, I DO know of people with OCD who were terrified of killing someone. These would be people they loved. I even knew a person with OCD who had obsessive thoughts about grabbing the knife, how they could do it, if they would get caught, etc. Naturally, this person was scared of themselves. They eventually never left their room for years until they received help.

Would this person have killed someone? Do rapists/murderers usually admit that they find the act disgusting? Even the rapists who rape using tools such as alcohol (which are a huge majority) seem to get excited when they talk about their acts.

It's far better to talk about these issues than to sweep them under the rug. True, love and dating isn't the best spot to discuss this. There are also rape victims here, and the OP was insensitive to both them* and possibly eastern asian students*. However, we have a person who not only thinks rape is horrible, but wanted to know if anyone else ever had this reaction. Like other abusers, rapists are usually manipulative and artificially charming so they aren't detected. This person has not acted like that. While we can speculate what his true intentions are, his words are reflecting that of a person who does not want to rape.

*I can see how some victims of rape would be offended by this post. How you word some things kind of implies lack of sex=men wanting to rape. However, I think it was more you didn't elaborate on that. I'm not offended here, I just can see how others would be. At the same time, you probably feel (because you were) verbally attacked and are trying to defend yourself.

*OP, people may have been freaking out about the eastern asian student thing because they thought you meant you would rape them. When you say student, a lot of very young female children are abused in these countries. They are raped and by sex tourists, and it goes unreported. If you mean university student and/or someone who is 16, you didn't specify, so people might assume younger and/or unwilling. I do admit, if you did mean any younger than 16 and/or forced, I would consider both of those rape. However, until I know what you meant, I will assume you meant legally of age and consenting because you said you prefer the girlfriend treatment type prostitution.

Rape scenes are fairly common in the BDSM scene, but they are negotiated by both parties first and limits are set and a safeword is used. Some people take it pretty far, even where the girl is fighting back and kicks and hits the guy. I knew a guy who was into BDSM and he was particularly fond of rape scenes and he liked them pretty heavy like that. However, he wouldn't ever actually rape anybody and never wanted to ACTUALLY rape a girl, he just liked having really rough sex where he held her down. He was an EMT and a fireman and had been on calls where somebody was actually raped and he said that the difference between real rape and a SM scene are night and day. In fact, in a rape scene, the girl can put a stop to it at any second just by saying the safe word.

About the original post though, urges to actually rape somebody aren't normal. I'd seriously get some help about that.

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