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AspergianMutantt
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05 Mar 2014, 11:47 pm

When a woman dumps a man, they are numb to mans feelings, while other women may sympathies your whining puts you put into their friend zone. women want confident men.

When they say they want a sensitive man its for them selves, its to their own expectations, not your needs. when you talk about things that has shaken your confidence it shakes theirs in you. some things men shouldn't talk about even when women say its OK. women CHERISH confidence in men, don't let them tell you otherwise, even and esp if their lacking in their own.

Through out history men have said don't do this, while woman says do. there is a reason men say this, and its because its true.



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06 Mar 2014, 12:56 am

AspergianMutantt wrote:
When a woman dumps a man, they are numb to mans feelings,


No.



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06 Mar 2014, 3:26 am

AspergianMutantt wrote:
When a woman dumps a man, they are numb to mans feelings, while other women may sympathies your whining puts you put into their friend zone. women want confident men.

When they say they want a sensitive man its for them selves, its to their own expectations, not your needs. when you talk about things that has shaken your confidence it shakes theirs in you. some things men shouldn't talk about even when women say its OK. women CHERISH confidence in men, don't let them tell you otherwise, even and esp if their lacking in their own.

Through out history men have said don't do this, while woman says do. there is a reason men say this, and its because its true.


so put up a wall of emotion and never talk about your feelings?

yeah cause i've never heard women complain about how their guys wont open up to them and its hurting the relationship.



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06 Mar 2014, 3:50 am

AspergianMutantt wrote:
When a woman dumps a man, they are numb to mans feelings, while other women may sympathies your whining puts you put into their friend zone. women want confident men.

When they say they want a sensitive man its for them selves, its to their own expectations, not your needs. when you talk about things that has shaken your confidence it shakes theirs in you. some things men shouldn't talk about even when women say its OK. women CHERISH confidence in men, don't let them tell you otherwise, even and esp if their lacking in their own.

Through out history men have said don't do this, while woman says do. there is a reason men say this, and its because its true.



Guess it depends on what kind of female friends you have. If they're douchebags then yeah they'll be numb to your feelings and put you in the friend zone.

I was friends with my girlfriend at the time's best friend. My gf's best friend was the one that was there for me when I found out my girlfriend had been cheating on me. She let me whine, cry, piss, moan then the next day we watched movies, ate pizza and made out a few hours later. LOL.

But normally a little bit of sad feelings and whining is normal when you're dumped and the female friends don't mind. Most of the time I'm not even around my female friends during that period, just male friends. They usually solve everything with a case of beers and video games. It works pretty well. Of course sometimes they try to convince me to accompany them out on the town to get laid. That never works well.
But the female friends I've been around were always understanding and it never affected their view of me.

It would, however, if you don't let it go. If you're the type of person who continues to whine constantly weeks and months afterwards nonstop, then yeah, that would make almost anyone's view on a person change for the worse.
I've had a few friends like that and I usually just wind up avoiding hanging out with them because it's annoying, and I'm talking when they're going on about it months afterwards. I'll be like, "hey, go out and date other women or go out and get laid, or write a letter to your ex for closure. Do SOMETHING so you can move the eff on and STFU about it."
I wouldn't literally say it like that, but the message is the same. If they don't and keep talking about it 24/7 then I just don't hang out with them much anymore. Usually what winds up happening with those guys is they will start dating someone else.



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06 Mar 2014, 10:07 am

If you sell coke for a living, you can do whatever, have any, or as many girls as you want. Women like all that gangster mode, sons of anarchy crap. There are a few good ones who don't, but you don't need to think about those. If you wind up in prison, you will loose everything, and they will take whatever they can get, so make the best of it.

This is not advice, or a suggestion. :P

If you do not want to be afraid of women, when you know you should be, I would suggest supressing some thoughts, and emotions somehow, and just diving in with both feet. most people get really drunk. You can do something stupid, because that is what people do. When you do that, it is a good idea to not have a conscience about it, otherwise you will dwell, and make youself nuts.

I used to go to a bar alone, where there is alot of women. Sit at the bar, look into space, pretend I'm actually watching one of those stupid ball games, or doodle with my phone or something. Food is nice to have around too, and mind my own buisness. That was easy. Must not have been too good of an idea, because I don't do it anymore, and I'm still single. The tramps were fun for a while, I was one too. If you do that, don't sit next to any old drunkard idiots, other men, or those women that are dying to get attention from every guy in the bar. They will just screw with your chi, and nothing will happen. Night clubs ar good too, if you can handle all that stuff going on. Just blank it out.



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07 Mar 2014, 6:39 pm

You know what helps me not fear women socially as much? Weed. :)



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07 Mar 2014, 7:12 pm

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I know this may be stupid for me to say this and im not sure where to put this and its kind of embarressing to admit it as a guy but sometimes I am afraid of women. I dont bother doing the approaching because I fear rejection and fear being considered as a creep or whatnot so I dont bother. I let the women make all the moves but even now I am afraid these days because I am afraid of their motifs, what if they are merely pretending to love me only to use me then dump me afterwards or act all friendly as a facade until i live with them and they are abusive and manipulative! I am and have been physically attracted to women but lately I have been apprehensive and afraid they might be mean or do mean things to me. So I dont bother looking and isolate myself from the rest of society. I guess it also helps I been in an abusive relationship in the past and it messed me up pretty bad!


It's okay, I agree that women are scary but they are human just like males. Some women hurt men just like some men hurt women.
Plus, the roles could be reversed, girls could think you are pretending to love them, using them and dumping them or nice one minute but when they move in, you could be abusive and manipulative.

Obviously I don't think you are any of the things I said but sometimes the fears you have about women might be something that women fear about guys anyway.
I can understand that you have insecurities but does that mean you shouldn't acknowledge their existence. The right person will help with those insecurities but not when you think this way of people. While some people are bad, that doesn't mean this world is void of any goodness as there is a chance beyond the horizon that you are not seeing.


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08 Mar 2014, 8:03 am

FunkMasterMike wrote:
You know what helps me not fear women socially as much? Weed. :)


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15 Mar 2014, 1:26 am

AspieOtaku wrote:
I know this may be stupid for me to say this and im not sure where to put this and its kind of embarressing to admit it as a guy but sometimes I am afraid of women. I dont bother doing the approaching because I fear rejection and fear being considered as a creep or whatnot so I dont bother. I let the women make all the moves but even now I am afraid these days because I am afraid of their motifs, what if they are merely pretending to love me only to use me then dump me afterwards or act all friendly as a facade until i live with them and they are abusive and manipulative! I am and have been physically attracted to women but lately I have been apprehensive and afraid they might be mean or do mean things to me. So I dont bother looking and isolate myself from the rest of society. I guess it also helps I been in an abusive relationship in the past and it messed me up pretty bad!

Basic instincts. Males and females live in separate packs and feel awkward around each other.



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15 Mar 2014, 9:43 am

Nice. They always care for me when they dump me. Sometimes it is very difficult for them. We remain friends. With the exception of the last two. I ran away. Far far away. I'm sure most difficulties come from the fact that I want to be left alone alot. My mind is on other things. Ignorance is bliss. It is also lonely. 42 and never changed a diaper. YAY!! !!



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15 Mar 2014, 11:03 am

Guys should be afraid of women, they bleed like crazy every month for 7 days and just don't die. :P


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15 Mar 2014, 6:13 pm

AspergianMutantt wrote:
Guys should be afraid of women, they bleed like crazy every month for 7 days and just don't die. :P



Indeed. It is only their sheer stupidity that makes them brazenly disregard their own lives with careless abandon.

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16 Mar 2014, 1:39 am

leafplant wrote:
AspergianMutantt wrote:
Guys should be afraid of women, they bleed like crazy every month for 7 days and just don't die. :P



Indeed. It is only their sheer stupidity that makes them brazenly disregard their own lives with careless abandon.

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:lol: I dont know why but this made me laugh!


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19 Mar 2014, 9:39 pm

Welcome to the club, sorry but Dan is currently dealing with a similar problem and cannot help you at the time.
Please leave a message at the mental breakdown. Arrghhh!

The fear thing can be both beneficial and detrimental, if things are already going down the john you can ask if your acting wierd. Or will that just make it worse? In all honesty, its just a postulate.


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