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The_Face_of_Boo
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The_Face_of_Boo
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17 Mar 2014, 3:06 am
886 wrote:
There is a lot of truth saying that most men who have a lot of female friends probably want to have sex with a good number of them. But, there's also a lot of truth that "nice guy syndrome" and stereotyping are very bad for dating because they don't apply to everyone (although, you could argue that they do for most people). So, you're both right.
But he clearly did a very poor job bringing it up, I really don't know why he'd go out of his way to call you "rude" then offer you a compliment. It sounds like he's just trying to make you feel insecure so that you'll therefore settle for him, so again, maybe there is a little bit of "nice guy syndrome" going on here. If you don't like someone's answer to a question that much, don't talk to them, it's pretty basic stuff I'd think..
The answer to her question was "an absurd amount" think about it, do you know any guys who have an absurd amount of female friends that aren't either gay or having sex/trying to have sex with them? An absurd amount is that, an absurd amount, not just one or two. It doesn't mean she's going to be the jealous controlling girlfriend who deletes all other girl's numbers from her boyfriend's phone, either.
Gotta love stereotypes!
But he clearly did a very poor job bringing it up, I really don't know why he'd go out of his way to call you "rude" then offer you a compliment. It sounds like he's just trying to make you feel insecure so that you'll therefore settle for him, so again, maybe there is a little bit of "nice guy syndrome" going on here. If you don't like someone's answer to a question that much, don't talk to them, it's pretty basic stuff I'd think..
Dhp wrote:
I see both sides of this argument; has has the right to have female friends, and if Hale_Bopp doesn't approve of that, then that is her opinion. What I don't like is that he is lecturing her on this point, as if he is going to change her opinion, and having the temerity that she is being rude to him. WTF? Then he goes on and on and on trying to prove his point to convince her. It's like a christian trying to persuade a non believer to convert. No wonder she is angry and he is single! He does have a right to ask why Hale_Bopp feels the way she does, but to lecture her? I think that is morally wrong.
I personally have two female friends, and heh - I'm not looking to score with them (I am NOT that type that only makes friends in hopes of scoring). They are my friends. If they want to take it further, they can ask me (but only the man is supposed to ask, right? - That is ^&^&*&^^% nowadays, as the tables have been turned). One of my female friends has a boyfriend, so she is off limits to me. It doesn't matter, as I like both as friends.
Well, hale_bopp, at least he didn't say, "WANAFUK?" lol But I'm sorry that you're taking that kind of abuse. I sincerely hope you find the right guy for you. Let this be a lesson folks; you have no right to lecture the other one if that one has a strong opinion; but you can ask that other one why he or she holds that opinion. Don't try to change anyone. It doesn't work. They have to want to change for themselves.
I personally have two female friends, and heh - I'm not looking to score with them (I am NOT that type that only makes friends in hopes of scoring). They are my friends. If they want to take it further, they can ask me (but only the man is supposed to ask, right? - That is ^&^&*&^^% nowadays, as the tables have been turned). One of my female friends has a boyfriend, so she is off limits to me. It doesn't matter, as I like both as friends.
Well, hale_bopp, at least he didn't say, "WANAFUK?" lol But I'm sorry that you're taking that kind of abuse. I sincerely hope you find the right guy for you. Let this be a lesson folks; you have no right to lecture the other one if that one has a strong opinion; but you can ask that other one why he or she holds that opinion. Don't try to change anyone. It doesn't work. They have to want to change for themselves.
The answer to her question was "an absurd amount" think about it, do you know any guys who have an absurd amount of female friends that aren't either gay or having sex/trying to have sex with them? An absurd amount is that, an absurd amount, not just one or two. It doesn't mean she's going to be the jealous controlling girlfriend who deletes all other girl's numbers from her boyfriend's phone, either.
Gotta love stereotypes!
It can be the other way around, it can be that the guy is too attractive and women-magnet to the extent that a lot of woman want to befriend hoping to get him
.
I personally knew a single guy who's literally "any woman's dream" in everything: looks, height, body, confident personality, successful, and he had tons of female friends, an absurd amount like you say it- but a lot of them were exes and I bet the other half were admirers (they so remarkably like to take pictures with him leaning on him, body contact...etc).
Is that a nice guy syndrome case too?
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17 Mar 2014, 3:13 am
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
886 wrote:
There is a lot of truth saying that most men who have a lot of female friends probably want to have sex with a good number of them. But, there's also a lot of truth that "nice guy syndrome" and stereotyping are very bad for dating because they don't apply to everyone (although, you could argue that they do for most people). So, you're both right.
But he clearly did a very poor job bringing it up, I really don't know why he'd go out of his way to call you "rude" then offer you a compliment. It sounds like he's just trying to make you feel insecure so that you'll therefore settle for him, so again, maybe there is a little bit of "nice guy syndrome" going on here. If you don't like someone's answer to a question that much, don't talk to them, it's pretty basic stuff I'd think..
The answer to her question was "an absurd amount" think about it, do you know any guys who have an absurd amount of female friends that aren't either gay or having sex/trying to have sex with them? An absurd amount is that, an absurd amount, not just one or two. It doesn't mean she's going to be the jealous controlling girlfriend who deletes all other girl's numbers from her boyfriend's phone, either.
Gotta love stereotypes!
But he clearly did a very poor job bringing it up, I really don't know why he'd go out of his way to call you "rude" then offer you a compliment. It sounds like he's just trying to make you feel insecure so that you'll therefore settle for him, so again, maybe there is a little bit of "nice guy syndrome" going on here. If you don't like someone's answer to a question that much, don't talk to them, it's pretty basic stuff I'd think..
Dhp wrote:
I see both sides of this argument; has has the right to have female friends, and if Hale_Bopp doesn't approve of that, then that is her opinion. What I don't like is that he is lecturing her on this point, as if he is going to change her opinion, and having the temerity that she is being rude to him. WTF? Then he goes on and on and on trying to prove his point to convince her. It's like a christian trying to persuade a non believer to convert. No wonder she is angry and he is single! He does have a right to ask why Hale_Bopp feels the way she does, but to lecture her? I think that is morally wrong.
I personally have two female friends, and heh - I'm not looking to score with them (I am NOT that type that only makes friends in hopes of scoring). They are my friends. If they want to take it further, they can ask me (but only the man is supposed to ask, right? - That is ^&^&*&^^% nowadays, as the tables have been turned). One of my female friends has a boyfriend, so she is off limits to me. It doesn't matter, as I like both as friends.
Well, hale_bopp, at least he didn't say, "WANAFUK?" lol But I'm sorry that you're taking that kind of abuse. I sincerely hope you find the right guy for you. Let this be a lesson folks; you have no right to lecture the other one if that one has a strong opinion; but you can ask that other one why he or she holds that opinion. Don't try to change anyone. It doesn't work. They have to want to change for themselves.
I personally have two female friends, and heh - I'm not looking to score with them (I am NOT that type that only makes friends in hopes of scoring). They are my friends. If they want to take it further, they can ask me (but only the man is supposed to ask, right? - That is ^&^&*&^^% nowadays, as the tables have been turned). One of my female friends has a boyfriend, so she is off limits to me. It doesn't matter, as I like both as friends.
Well, hale_bopp, at least he didn't say, "WANAFUK?" lol But I'm sorry that you're taking that kind of abuse. I sincerely hope you find the right guy for you. Let this be a lesson folks; you have no right to lecture the other one if that one has a strong opinion; but you can ask that other one why he or she holds that opinion. Don't try to change anyone. It doesn't work. They have to want to change for themselves.
The answer to her question was "an absurd amount" think about it, do you know any guys who have an absurd amount of female friends that aren't either gay or having sex/trying to have sex with them? An absurd amount is that, an absurd amount, not just one or two. It doesn't mean she's going to be the jealous controlling girlfriend who deletes all other girl's numbers from her boyfriend's phone, either.
Gotta love stereotypes!
It can be the other way around, it can be that the guy is too attractive and women-magnet to the extent that a lot of woman want to befriend hoping to get him
. I personally knew a single guy who's literally "any woman's dream" in everything: looks, height, body, confident personality, successful, and he had tons of female friends, an absurd amount like you say it- but a lot of them were exes and I bet the other half are admirers (they so remarkably like to take pictures with him leaning on him, body contact...etc).
Is that a nice guy syndrome case too?
No, but I'm sure in modern society/the WP L&D forum, we could find a way to shame him for being who he is.
My whole point of what I posted is that there's always an exception to the stereotypes created by the internet, I guess your statement agrees with mine in a way.
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