My thoughts on why you don't have a girlfriend.

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I've noticed this before actually. I don't get along well with anyone for a prolonged period of time, not even myself.

All i see is people with plays. REALLLY?

WRONG!

It's because I'm gay.

Well said.

I'd say even leave out that whole "who happen to be female" bit. People are just people. If you just want to find another person to have sex with, find a person whose interest and enthusiasm for sex with the opposite sex match your own. No manipulation necessary.

Exactly. This is what I am aiming on doing. To stop being such an isolated person and to actually get out there, meet people, make friends with both sexes; and hope I meet a nice girl or guy (i am bi).

Outgoing and confidence can be mutually exclusive. I'm shy but I can still go out and do things with equally shy friends. If we meet people or have a good time with the people with us then yeah.....

There's plenty of messed up guys with girlfriends because they can meet people, there's plenty of perfectly decent aspies inside that are single because they can't meet people.

I think this is most of us. Perfectly decent people who are just too isolated to really make friends; and when we DO get out there we are too much out of our comfort zone to really meet people properly...

The OP was trying to ask what actually makes a man attractive to women. I agree, "masculinity" doesn't matter, money doesn't matter, job doesn't matter, all that stuff does matter but isn't the decider.

What is the most important factor is simply how open you are as a person. If you completely hide all or most parts of your personality, both outdoors and at home, both to your friends and co-workers/schoolmates and even to your own family, etc. If you're just plain secretive and not willing to be open about who you are and be yourself you won't meet much people then...

Even shy people can talk about something they like to do with someone or something they like to watch/play/eat/drink/read/whatever.

For people to be INSTERESTED in you, you have to actually be INTERESTING is what I'm saying...

As an engineer, I take offense to that! For the record, I've never worn a pocket protector.

I'm a very open person, perhaps too much.
I meet lots of people, the question and challenge is how do they become friends. when is it appropriate. the people i meet as customers are probably not appropriate to try to make friends with.

all my friends were introduced to me by current friends. I made one friend back in 2nd grade and that spawned 20 friends who over time moved on so now it's 2.

Damn crooked, homey.

I don't think there's anything simpler than catching a chick or dude.

Eh? How is picking up chicks supposed to be "easy" when even NTs go to great lengths just to try and get laid?

If you're going to great lengths, you're doing it wrong.

I was just yanking Boo's chain. My late fiance was an engineer and I thought he was the hottest guy to have ever walked the face of the earth (and Boo knows that I feel that way).

LOL sorry someone had to say it!

By great lengths, I mean buying a nice car, working out, doing crazy stunts, becoming a musician, that kind of stuff. A lot of people do that kind of stuff in an effort to get some sex.

I'm an Aspie, I've got angst....but I'm no loser!

These same guys seem to believe that women will only date them for what they have rather than who they are. Who wants that?

Hey, I'm not saying women are like that, I'm saying that guys often do crazy things to try and get laid, that's all. Why? because they are all things that tend to impress people, and let's face it, you're more likely to get female attention if you're a guitar god with a nice bod than some slovenly dude who sits in his basement all day.