qawer wrote:
AngelRho wrote:
qawer wrote:
Is anyone else bothered by the fact that you have to "play the game" to get a girlfriend/date? I mean, it is so fake, it's difficult to see this game as love.
But I know I have to forget about "romantic" love, or "true" love. It is all a materialistic social contract in the end.
If it really is a materialistic social contract, why is that a bad thing? Not saying I disagree. Romantic love is only a tiny component in my relationship. It's not even about "true love." Love is merely cement for a number of foundational components of a relationship. You mix up your own aggregate for what actually goes into that foundation; all love does is keep it together. If two people are divided on the "stuff" of a relationship, or if a key component is missing, the relationship is doomed from the outset. And yes, those things in reality are materialistic. You can't promise a wife you'll impregnate her and then decide you're just too scared of babies. You can't promise your mate you'll provide for him/her/children and then just give up when you're out of a job and cannot find another one. It's materialisitc, sure, but it is necessary.
The problem is that you become a part of the social hierarchy, which is what I despise. It means you become a product with a certain value, and nothing more.
I prefer to set my own value. Depending on how you look at it, I'm either at the top or the bottom of the hierarchy. Either way, my situation doesn't suck! Where ever it becomes a negative thing, I just tend to ignore it. To get ahead in life, human being need each other. I believe we place ourselves where ever we want to be within the hierarchy. The fact that it exists doesn't have absolute implications on outcomes. If I want to make it to the top, it is incumbent on me to meet people who don't mind helping me get there. People who want to help you are easy to find. All you have to do is keep looking for them and recognize them when you see them.
Opposing society for the sake of opposition won't help you. I'm not exactly a conformist, either, but I'm surrounded by a lot of people who are open-minded and understanding, even if they disagree with me.