Dating an anti-feminist girl

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I have a mathematics degree and I'm an electrical engineering student. Trust me, keeping track of one more number is hardly a strain on my brain, especially not when it helps me make a point that's important to me. I'm not hostile to women generally (another bogus claim, what a surprise), though I am clearly hostile to feminism's claim of supporting equal rights, as well as the sexism on this board that suggests a guy can't act on nonverbal cues without inherently disrespecting a woman. I'm also hostile to you for very specific reasons you're well aware of and for which you still haven't taken responsibility, despite moderator XFilesGeek assuring me he sent you a PM toward that end. In fact, this is his entire last PM to me:





Fully five other people, including a moderator, have agreed with me that what you said sounds rapey, warrants an apology, or constitutes an attack. As vickygleitz pointed out, you may have underestimated how severely your words affected me. Here's the quote for prosperity, so people can again decide for themselves (bold emphasis mine):



If you expected me to not take that personally, you were very sorely mistaken. I gave you the perfect opportunity to take back your words here. After relating my story of how upset I was for being made to feel that I intended harm on others, I really thought you would have shown me sympathy and would do the right thing. But what did I get in my inbox instead? You still adamantly arguing you're not guilty of wrongdoing; how I insult people when in actuality I insulted only you by saying (and I quote) "you represent the worst of feminism" and then only after you repeatedly undermined my own successful experiences with dating and made me to feel like I'm utterly incompetent, loathingly disrespectful, and impossibly dense; how I'm irrational; how I (and I quote) "disagreed with [you] vehemently for no apparent reason" even when I started out calm and said multiple times what my position was; how I'm "hugging this idea that I'm calling you a rapist like it's the last lifesaver on the Titanic" as if I'm happy to keep bringing up your hurtful words, and as if you really have no idea how hurtful saying what you did was. And for the record, I said you implied or suggested it. I'd pull up Merriam again to show you intent isn't required for an implication, but even I've grown too tired of myself doing that (do it yourselves, folks). I refuse to make any excuses about feeling very angry and upset with you in particular, tarantella64.

Now. With all that said, I'm fully and completely wanting to gratefully walk away from my antagonism, anger, and frustration and will if you would agree that, indeed, maybe you don't have the full picture and that, even if you don't understand me, you shouldn't have said what you did. Please. Believe me, I'd like nothing more than to drop this feud and these dreadful feelings. I'm exhausted and I'd frankly rather talk about something else. I can't let it slide until I'm vindicated, but I'd really like nothing more than to stop bringing it up. Truly. Could you please take it back? What would I have to say or do for you to take it back?

Dude, you're obsessed and taking this way too personally.

You can't be overtly antagonistic to someone and then turn around and play the "poor me" card when they have the audacity to dare talk back to you.

It's completely clear from this thread alone that you have no actual idea how you come across.

If you fly off the handle at every percieved slight by a woman on an internet message board...

...it does raise concerns about how you react to women in real life.

You're already violating the TOS by quoting private messages. Whats next in your crusade? Doxing? I know that's the go-to form of Men's Rights "Activism."

2. Personal attacks.
This includes insinuation, ridicule and personal insults, regardless of whether direct or indirect. Attacking an opinion, belief or philosophy is acceptable, but attacking the person making the comments is not.

And is a very legit rationale. Go left-wings!

Where was I "overly antagonistic" to someone prior to tarantella suggesting I was a rapist? Show me. I don't mind being talked back to; what I do mind is being essentially called a rapist for doing what most of the NT world also does.



Ridiculous? Petty? An as*hole? I know how it looks and I'm okay with all of those because I know that prior to the 'I misread a situation and accidentally kissed a friend' thread, I was none of them.



Tarantella implied I was a rapist for acting on nonverbal cues. A rapist, Geekonychus. I didn't "fly off the handle" at anything less than that.



I've never reacted this way in real life, but then I've never been called a rapist in real life, either.



I've just looked up the terms of service and it looks like you're right, private messages aren't meant to be read by others. But if I'm held accountable for violating board policy, then tarantella should be as well. She's had ample opportunity to make up for it and has since refused. From Alex's rules post:

No it isn't. You stating that proves you don't believe in equality, but some form of entitlement. There is a difference between believing everyone should be treated with respect, as opposed to feeling you are entitled to be treated a certain way because of the atrocities of the past. This is just one the reasons why I don't like the term feminism and am in favor of equality. Let me ask you this, do you think if a woman commits a crime, lets say murder for instance. Should she get less of a sentence than a man, simply because she's a woman? What if it was another crime, like shop lifting, tax evasion, possession of an illegal substance.