Why do people suddenly stop talking?

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Yuzu
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25 Oct 2014, 7:03 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I am sure you would reply if he is hot and interesting enough to you; he doesn't have to be 1% super hot.

Not if he only said "hi" even if he was hot enough for me. I mean how hard can it be to read the profile and come up with a few sentences about something on it? I'm not interested in someone who is not even bothered to do that. But this is how I am. Not sure about other women.
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Yuzu wrote:
Also, in a bar girls still could ignore you when you said "hi" if you don't look hot enough for them. But if you said something interesting that might pique their interest you would have better chance.


To a stranger without a hi or hello? Like how? You are purely talking PUA now.

The interesting talk should come later after the hi and a small chit chat/intro.

Ignoring someone saying hi to your face is rude, never happened to me; but why would I want a such stuck up rude anyway. :p

In the US in a crowded bar where young people are there to meet the opposite sex, it's very common to ignore someone they don't want to talk to. They'll just turn around or walk away.

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
The first message has little impact on the outcome; as long it's not 'hey babe" and the like.

"Hi" is as bad as "hey babe". And I have been completely swooned by a first message that made the guy seem even more attractive. He was attractive enough and had an interesting profile but if he had only said "hi" I would most certainly not have replied.



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25 Oct 2014, 7:16 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Yuzu wrote:


I'm surprised anyone reply to a message saying just "hi". That's considered a big no no. Try to come up with a message asking about their interests in 2 or 3 sentences. And don't compliment on their looks.


If a very good-looking super hot single guy with very good profile and with a lot of common interests/music/compatibility with you sends you a first message as just "hi", won't you reply with a hi too?

Note: if you say No = you are lying.

You can call me a liar if you want but the answer for me is "no". I barely look at the thumbnail pic and definitely don't open their profile (so how do I even know if they are interesting?) before I hit DELETE.



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25 Oct 2014, 7:28 pm

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Why do some people not respond even if we are like 99.9999999999999999999 percent match?

Because match percentage is ONE tool on that site to measure compatibility. There are plenty of others, like your looks, your interests, any of the stuff you have in your profile basically. I've had a 99%er who I didn't find physically attractive from the main pic but I had more of a look at his profile in case there were more pics and he was an awesome person. I couldn't relate to his profile at all. There were so many reasons we were not a good match. So the percentage thing is very handy but certainly not perfect.



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26 Oct 2014, 8:47 am

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You know what, you guys just should keep sending "hi". Why should I even care.

i have no idea why you should care. you sound rather cranky or something and whatever. so sober and sensitive are you.


oh yeah, "hi" by the way.
and "see you later" too,
i really don't want to know you....
(so sorry).
but yeah the "hi" was completely genuine,
but now it's completely gone.

so i guess there is no further.......
worry.

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26 Oct 2014, 10:40 am

Noses are growing....



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26 Oct 2014, 12:14 pm

just say it


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26 Oct 2014, 1:08 pm

Einschmidt wrote:
just say it

Real answer is below:
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I'm going to be honest with you.
Looking at that profile you're just an average guy like the millions of other average guys on dating sites. It's like farting into the wind.



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26 Oct 2014, 1:58 pm

What do I do then?


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26 Oct 2014, 4:17 pm

Uprising wrote:
Einschmidt wrote:
just say it

Real answer is below:
hale_bopp wrote:
I'm going to be honest with you.
Looking at that profile you're just an average guy like the millions of other average guys on dating sites. It's like farting into the wind.

I don't see how this could be the problem. That would mean the other millions of average guys would have the same difficulties and OkC would have been more widely reviewed as being useless long ago.



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26 Oct 2014, 10:21 pm

Yuzu wrote:
Not if he only said "hi" even if he was hot enough for me. I mean how hard can it be to read the profile and come up with a few sentences about something on it? I'm not interested in someone who is not even bothered to do that. But this is how I am. Not sure about other women.


it becomes hard when you've done it hundreds of time and get nothing back.

for me it takes like 5-20 mins to address stuff from profiles and try to put it in the message. I use to do this a lot as I was really interested in them after reading their profiles and girls said they liked guys who did this. but the result is the same it was not cost/benefit efficient.

I wasted lots of time, effort and self esteem on this. I got more responses with just hi or howdy hows your day messages. and its mostly what women send to me as well. an ice breaker as most call it. to gauge interest then the 2nd message is more about interests and similarities.
ok should adopt winks/icebreaker options like other sites, but they make their money off of hiding who likes you until you pay them monthly, so that will never happen.