Women possibly ARE interested, but you can't see it?

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The_Face_of_Boo
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30 Oct 2014, 3:08 am

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No, real interest is easly shown and they are not just simple subtle signs.

A girl would make your know in a way or a another.

Things like texting, facebook...etc expose those things too.

This is just not true. Plenty of women are shy or uncertain and don't want to show interest until they know it is reciprocated. If both parties act this way...nobody ever knows!


Believe me, no matter how shy they are, you'll know.

One of the girls who showed interest in me was the very shy type.

Then why do guys claim that they didn't know I was interested in them? And why have I had to have girls tell me they were interested, because I couldn't tell?



You people are probably too stupid. :lol:

Here are few hints:

If she texts you Good morning every morning = interested.
if she texts you Good night every night = interested.
If she is eager to introduce you to her friends = interested
if she is texting you a lot = interested
If she is wanting to join your activities every time = interested

It's often, the frequency of things- I am not talking here about few times.

Even shy girls end up doing those subconsiously.

Btw, if interest isn't reciproced, the other party would claim they didn't see it even if they did.



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30 Oct 2014, 3:14 am

^ But this thread is about people not realising someone is interested in them. This is not a thread about "how to tell if someone is interested". I'm suggesting that people who claim nobody is interested may be incorrect, because they are simply not picking up on it. First you say that's impossible, now you say it's not. Make up your mind (or admit you don't know).



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30 Oct 2014, 3:43 am

yellowtamarin wrote:
^ But this thread is about people not realising someone is interested in them. This is not a thread about "how to tell if someone is interested". I'm suggesting that people who claim nobody is interested may be incorrect, because they are simply not picking up on it. First you say that's impossible, now you say it's not. Make up your mind (or admit you don't know).



Why is that too hard to believe?

Look Yellow, you are a beautiful young woman and lively too, so I can see why your brain can't compute how some people may never get interest from others, it's something you can't relate to, but they exist and those are often the people who die virgin or with little love experience.

As I have said earlier in other thread, when it comes to attraction, people aren't that individualistic, for example there are basic things that the majority of girls like and dislike in a guy.



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30 Oct 2014, 4:09 am

Lol guys are never interested in me either. I'm starting to think I'm ugly. They don't even glance at me wen I walk down the street.



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30 Oct 2014, 4:13 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
No, real interest is easly shown and they are not just simple subtle signs.

A girl would make your know in a way or a another.

Things like texting, facebook...etc expose those things too.



Hmmm.... I really really REALLY liked a guy from my university course and I didn't do any of those things. I was way too shy and afraid of rejection. I think I liked a few of his facebook status updates and sometimes a gave him a pat on the arm but that's all. The more I like someone the more afraid I am of rejection so the more 'subtle' my signs will be. Probably very disfunctional, but yeah...



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30 Oct 2014, 4:18 am

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Lol guys are never interested in me either. I'm starting to think I'm ugly. They don't even glance at me wen I walk down the street.

How would they know if you are ugly if they don't even glance at you?

Maybe they are just not looking at you while you are looking at them? Avoiding eye contact is very common, including when spotting someone you find attractive.



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30 Oct 2014, 4:30 am

yellowtamarin wrote:
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Lol guys are never interested in me either. I'm starting to think I'm ugly. They don't even glance at me wen I walk down the street.

How would they know if you are ugly if they don't even glance at you?

Maybe they are just not looking at you while you are looking at them? Avoiding eye contact is very common, including when spotting someone you find attractive.


Because appearantly I'm nonexistant. I'm just like thin air to them, not noticeable. That's probably even worse than ugly.
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30 Oct 2014, 6:55 am

One possibility is not that the signals are not noticed, but that they are not comprehended.

One of my high school friends, a very pretty girl, often sat next to me when we had classes together, did sexually suguestive things around me, asked me to kiss her at one point and gave me her phone number and asked me to call her over the summer. I recognized none of these signals since, in my own world, I was ugly and no one would be attracted to me, especially a pretty girl who (I assumed) could date anyone she wanted.

Over 20 years later a mutual friend pointed out that she had a long term crush on me. Looking back on her behavior, it all makes sense, but at the time I could not make sense of what she was up to since it didn't fit with how I perceived to world.

And at nearly 50 years old, not much has changed. Generally if women show some interest in me, I don't actually figure out what they are up to until it is far too late. I still have a similar world view where I find it hard to believe anyone would find me appealing.


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30 Oct 2014, 9:52 am

For me it depends on if girls are neurodiverse or not. I used to be (and probably still is) totally unaware of typical girls interest. However, I find it really easy to spot if neurodiverse girls are interested as it shows in their eye-contact behavior.



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30 Oct 2014, 10:21 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
^ But this thread is about people not realising someone is interested in them. This is not a thread about "how to tell if someone is interested". I'm suggesting that people who claim nobody is interested may be incorrect, because they are simply not picking up on it. First you say that's impossible, now you say it's not. Make up your mind (or admit you don't know).



Why is that too hard to believe?

Look Yellow, you are a beautiful young woman and lively too, so I can see why your brain can't compute how some people may never get interest from others, it's something you can't relate to, but they exist and those are often the people who die virgin or with little love experience.

As I have said earlier in other thread, when it comes to attraction, people aren't that individualistic, for example there are basic things that the majority of girls like and dislike in a guy.


Exactly this.



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30 Oct 2014, 11:17 am

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Lol guys are never interested in me either. I'm starting to think I'm ugly. They don't even glance at me wen I walk down the street.


Why is it when someone says they think they're ugly I always am more curious to see them? :lol:



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30 Oct 2014, 11:24 am

I think I am ugly.



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30 Oct 2014, 12:33 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I think I am ugly.



No you're not. I would date you if we were compatible and lived close.



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30 Oct 2014, 12:46 pm

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I think I am ugly.



No you're not. I would date you if we were compatible and lived close.


Yes, we are not compatible.

You couldn't see the humor in that post.



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30 Oct 2014, 12:50 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Cafeaulait wrote:
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I think I am ugly.



No you're not. I would date you if we were compatible and lived close.


Yes, we are not compatible.

You couldn't see the humor in that post.


I think we are certainly not compatible then.



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30 Oct 2014, 2:09 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
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No, real interest is easly shown and they are not just simple subtle signs.

A girl would make your know in a way or a another.

Things like texting, facebook...etc expose those things too.

This is just not true. Plenty of women are shy or uncertain and don't want to show interest until they know it is reciprocated. If both parties act this way...nobody ever knows!


Believe me, no matter how shy they are, you'll know.

One of the girls who showed interest in me was the very shy type.


If you have AS, reading body language is very difficult. The only signs I've noticed in girls that I've dated in the past were that they liked all my stuff on Facebook.


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