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15 Nov 2014, 12:59 am

Just to a date but still I haven't been on one in months and she seems like a great match for me.

pardon me I've got to go moon walk.



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15 Nov 2014, 1:07 am

congrats.



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15 Nov 2014, 2:33 am

:D Good luck!


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15 Nov 2014, 2:42 am

Well what great news sir :)



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15 Nov 2014, 5:56 am

The very fact that males here celebrate when they get a date means there's something wrong: their choices are limited to those few-in-a-blue-moon girls who happen to say yes for whatever reason and who might turn out to be horrible persons.

It's just a date, not a marriage.

It's the interview, not the job.



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15 Nov 2014, 6:04 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
The very fact that males here celebrate when they get a date means there's something wrong: their choices are limited to those few-in-a-blue-moon girls who happen to say yes for whatever reason and who might turn out to be horrible persons.

It's just a date, not a marriage.

It's the interview, not the job.


I think somebody has the wrong idea about relationships. :wink:

You cannot formalize relationships like a job-interview or any other rule-based thing. You cannot buy them either. And contrary to what the dating industry (and gift-industry) claim it doesn't get better with quantity.



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15 Nov 2014, 6:26 am

rdos wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
The very fact that males here celebrate when they get a date means there's something wrong: their choices are limited to those few-in-a-blue-moon girls who happen to say yes for whatever reason and who might turn out to be horrible persons.

It's just a date, not a marriage.

It's the interview, not the job.


I think somebody has the wrong idea about relationships. :wink:

You cannot formalize relationships like a job-interview or any other rule-based thing. You cannot buy them either. And contrary to what the dating industry (and gift-industry) claim it doesn't get better with quantity.


The job market and the (online) dating market are extremely similar.



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15 Nov 2014, 6:29 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
The job market and the (online) dating market are extremely similar.


That's why the dating market doesn't work properly. :wink:



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15 Nov 2014, 6:32 am

rdos wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
The job market and the (online) dating market are extremely similar.


That's why the dating market doesn't work properly. :wink:


It works fine for the employers.



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15 Nov 2014, 6:39 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
rdos wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
The job market and the (online) dating market are extremely similar.


That's why the dating market doesn't work properly. :wink:


It works fine for the employers.


Yes, but I don't want to be employed by my wife. Employment is something I need to make a living. I prefer to be with a partner because I like them not because I have to.

I suppose the reason NTs think it is such a good idea to associate them is that they view their partner as an extension to their social network, which then becomes similar to an employment. However, then you really no longer do it only because you like them.



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15 Nov 2014, 7:07 am

rdos wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
rdos wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
The job market and the (online) dating market are extremely similar.


That's why the dating market doesn't work properly. :wink:


It works fine for the employers.


Yes, but I don't want to be employed by my wife. Employment is something I need to make a living. I prefer to be with a partner because I like them not because I have to.

I suppose the reason NTs think it is such a good idea to associate them is that they view their partner as an extension to their social network, which then becomes similar to an employment. However, then you really no longer do it only because you like them.


Regardless if you need it or want it; the dynamics of the two markets are strikingly similar.



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15 Nov 2014, 7:29 am

There is no indication that the OP is using online dating.

There is no reason to pour cold water on someone's happiness. I think the OP should focus on having fun with his date.

Women don't have it any easier than men in finding good dating partners.



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15 Nov 2014, 8:48 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Regardless if you need it or want it; the dynamics of the two markets are strikingly similar.


I neither needed nor wanted a relationship. It was something that just happened. It was not something I planned, and it's not a market. Markets are for buying and selling things, and you cannot buy or sell a relationship.



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15 Nov 2014, 8:49 am

Davros wrote:
There is no indication that the OP is using online dating.

There is no reason to pour cold water on someone's happiness. I think the OP should focus on having fun with his date.

Women don't have it any easier than men in finding good dating partners.


I'm not discussing the OP. I think it is great he will be out on a date.



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15 Nov 2014, 8:51 am

You don't buy a job, you simply get selected.



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15 Nov 2014, 9:01 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
You don't buy a job, you simply get selected.


You get a job because you have the right competence and you can "sell" yourself properly (in some contexts). Some people (myself included) want a job they really enjoy, and don't care a lot about pay or social status, but in those cases it's not a market thing at all. Then it's more like a relationship in that we prioritize the enjoyment over pay and power. However, dating sites are advertised and run much like markets where people sell themselves based on resumes, competence and looks. That's a really dysfunctional way to get into relationships.