How to be attractive

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Smoke152
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20 Nov 2014, 8:11 pm

Try and be more social, talk to more people (the usual answer). Look at people and smile, makes me smile back at them, join a gym, try and get more fit, and there are lots of guys at the gym. Either you go up to guys and hit on them or be more receptible when you are around them, as in smiling, or talking. This is the only way. Now get your ass out there, gg. Stop thinking or using your brain, the brain will only slow you down in social situations. OR online dating

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20 Nov 2014, 8:19 pm

smudge wrote:

Again, you lot are taking it too seriously.

Not all of us. I took it as an honest request, and offered my opinions. No more, and no less.

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20 Nov 2014, 9:40 pm

Fnord wrote:

smudge wrote:

Again, you lot are taking it too seriously.

Not all of us. I took it as an honest request, and offered my opinions. No more, and no less.

I liked your response, even if I wasn't being serious.

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20 Nov 2014, 9:41 pm

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123entropy wrote:

I never understood the humour in being "messed with". It just annoys me.

mean for those messed with, but funny for those messing. same as bullying.

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20 Nov 2014, 10:31 pm

Maybe you weren't being serious, but in keeping with my habit of responding inappropriately, here is what I have to say...

Obviously there is no recipe to attracting people since what is attractive to one person is repulsive to another. But I can offer a few thoughts on what I find appealing in people...

I am attracted to women who are not afraid to be themselves, but also have the confidence to not feel they have to prove anything. I am attracted to people who are comfortable in their own skin. I enjoy being with people who know they have strengths but are not afraid of their own weaknesses. I guess what I am looking for in people is wisdom.

Not that I have any of these qualities, myself.

Actually I guess I sort of do. Much to my surprise, i have discovered that some women have been attracted to me. But usually these were women I, myself, was not attracted to. I think what was going on was that when I was around a woman I was attracted to, I felt self conscious and awkward. I tried to hide my feelings and I came across as having some hidden agenda. But with women I was not attracted to, I was calm and at ease. I behaved naturally, with some degree of confidence because I wasn't trying to prove anything.

I think the play "She Stoops to Conquer" by Oliver Goldsmith should be required reading for any aspie wishing to attract a partner. It tells the story about a man who is shy around a woman he feels is his equal but is bold around the same woman when he thinks she is his inferior. It's about being comfortable with oneself and it did it a couple of hundred years ago.

Wikipedia link to "She Stoops to Conquer"

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20 Nov 2014, 11:11 pm

Follow me around for 24 hours, then do the exact opposite.

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21 Nov 2014, 5:53 am

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

You called it hunting. Does this mean I require a shotgun?

Usually taking your partner at gunpoint is considered to be rape. Your mileage may vary.

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21 Nov 2014, 8:11 am

funeralxempire wrote:

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

You called it hunting. Does this mean I require a shotgun?

Usually taking your partner at gunpoint is considered to be rape. Your mileage may vary.

It's ok for women to joke about raping men, apparently.

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21 Nov 2014, 9:07 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

funeralxempire wrote:

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

You called it hunting. Does this mean I require a shotgun?

Usually taking your partner at gunpoint is considered to be rape. Your mileage may vary.

It's ok for women to joke about raping men, apparently.

A man said the "R-Word"! Call the mods! Get the banhammer!

We're doomed! DOOMED, I say!

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21 Nov 2014, 5:36 pm

My advice:

Be kind and friendly, but strongly independent with your own opinions, interests and goals in life.

Be witty and be curious about wordly news and affairs.

Embrace your feminity and take care of yourself (for your own sake more than anything). Be comfortable in your skin and with your sexuality and carry yourself with confidence.

Smile Be happy and positive about life and it's easy for others around you to feel good as well.

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23 Nov 2014, 2:12 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

funeralxempire wrote:

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

You called it hunting. Does this mean I require a shotgun?

Usually taking your partner at gunpoint is considered to be rape. Your mileage may vary.

It's ok for women to joke about raping men, apparently.

That joke had absolutely nothing to do with sex. You two are icky.

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23 Nov 2014, 10:16 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

FTR... I was messin' with y'all. I'm not the least bit interested in attracting a man. :lol:

Reading the discussion that followed your OP was funny - read your profile - knew the joke. Seemed pretty harmless, IMO. :lol:

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24 Nov 2014, 9:47 am

Just smile and be overall really happy towards men while interacting with them

The opposite of what men should do when interacting with women (Judging by women's reactions to "nice guys")

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