Should I disclose?

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Nope...they're not "out of your league," RetroGamer. I'm sure, ultimately, with practice, that you'll be successful with women of all stripes.

Sorry , maybe u are just more confident with them because you've got them before

As an neurotypical woman in a relationship with an Aspie male, yes, please disclose. If not at first, very soon. My boyfriend waited to tell me until 4 months into our relationship and he is still shy about talking about it. Although it would not have changed my views on being with him or growing to be deeply in love with him, I would have liked to have known way before I did. It simply wasn't fair to have something like that hidden for 4 months as I got to know him and got attached to him. Trust me, if she's worth it, she'll see it as a difference, not a disadvantage. It will make things a lot easier and if you explain to her the things you have trouble with, she will be able to be more understanding rather than hurt or confused. Do yourself and her a favor, especially if you like her and see a blooming relationship!

No. I would not disclose until you feel you know her better and can trust her.

I didn't tell her. The girl I'm currentlydating I told within a week. She said her ex was aspie anyway. Nothing new to her.

I just don't believe being Aspie is this monumental thing to disclose--it's not cancer!

People frequently get the wrong idea about Asperger's--based upon its portrayal in the media.

Having Asperger's is no tragedy.

That's good, actually. Then she doesn't mind.

Maybe she does. She says her aspie ex was a real jerk.

When you've met one Aspie, you've met one Aspie.

Some are jerks, some are not jerks.

Does she think that you're a jerk?

The girl had some previous guy whom she called a "jerk."