Tellibg her I might be an aspie

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Hey all

As some of you might know I'm awaiting a diagnosis of possible aspergers. I've not told my partner of almost Five years and I'm wondering how to do it.

She's the only serious relationship I I've had and I don't want to lose her. I've been open with her about my Dyslexia and Dyspraxia but I think Aspergers might scare her off

Any advice from anyone?

She knows you for a long time, to have a diagnosis will not change the way you are, but will help her to understand you.

Yeah, that's a good way of looking at it. Thanks catalina

Your partner will probably say: "I'm not surprised." Then tell you to take out the garbage as if nothing had happened.

i agree. if the simple fact that you had aspergers scared her off, you likely would be better off without that. ^_^

does she know much about aspergers/ASD's in general?

What if you tell her, and then they diagnose you negative? It happens, you know.

Wait for the diagnosis first.

Thanks for all your replies everyone.

I told her. Felt guilty for keeping something from her for so long, so I mustered up all my courage and explained the situation.

She was unsurprisingly angry and hurt. She asked why I didn't just tell her, I explained that I was scared that she wouldn't understand.

She seems to have excepted it a little but things are a little strained still.