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The_Face_of_Boo
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08 May 2015, 7:15 am
Agemaki wrote:
When I was on OkCupid I met my share of interesting fellows. There are the ones that have to be blocked because they won't take "no" for an answer, the ones that try to manipulate you into liking them by telling you that all other guys play mind games to get sex, the guys who use weird pick up lines instead of actual conversation and the ones who just send out generic "hey sexy" messages. I tended to exchange messages with those had something of substance to say (there were quite a few) but there were just too many of the above sort to reply to all. Since many would keep messaging even if I said I wasn't interested (I therefore had to block them) replying in the first place seemed like it only encouraged them. I met my husband on OKCupid (I messaged him) and he did not experience any of this. I imagine gender has something to do with it.
Ok, I will just answer your reply, because yours is the only one I can read.
I believe the male to female ratio is a little lopsided on those sites, which gives females a larger selection to pick from than males, which means that there will be more males that get rejected. With more rejection comes more frustration, and more desperation, which is why women get all of these "annoying" messages.
To level out the playing field, and to reduce the superficial tendancies of those sites, they need to have a 50/50 male to female ratio, only allow the females to message the guys first, and not allow photo sharing, until you get to know each other first.
08 May 2015, 5:15 pm
SilverStar wrote:
Agemaki wrote:
When I was on OkCupid I met my share of interesting fellows. There are the ones that have to be blocked because they won't take "no" for an answer, the ones that try to manipulate you into liking them by telling you that all other guys play mind games to get sex, the guys who use weird pick up lines instead of actual conversation and the ones who just send out generic "hey sexy" messages. I tended to exchange messages with those had something of substance to say (there were quite a few) but there were just too many of the above sort to reply to all. Since many would keep messaging even if I said I wasn't interested (I therefore had to block them) replying in the first place seemed like it only encouraged them. I met my husband on OKCupid (I messaged him) and he did not experience any of this. I imagine gender has something to do with it.
Ok, I will just answer your reply, because yours is the only one I can read.
I believe the male to female ratio is a little lopsided on those sites, which gives females a larger selection to pick from than males, which means that there will be more males that get rejected. With more rejection comes more frustration, and more desperation, which is why women get all of these "annoying" messages.
To level out the playing field, and to reduce the superficial tendancies of those sites, they need to have a 50/50 male to female ratio, only allow the females to message the guys first, and not allow photo sharing, until you get to know each other first.
idk that that would help. it still lets women window shop, making men a object to shop for rather than a mate.
perhaps if women and men from the site started hooking upt and their profiles were removed it might work, but if not the other women would reject men for the guy who already got hooked up not knowing he did.
08 May 2015, 6:19 pm
Hoggy
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08 May 2015, 7:14 pm
sly279 wrote:
SilverStar wrote:
Agemaki wrote:
When I was on OkCupid I met my share of interesting fellows. There are the ones that have to be blocked because they won't take "no" for an answer, the ones that try to manipulate you into liking them by telling you that all other guys play mind games to get sex, the guys who use weird pick up lines instead of actual conversation and the ones who just send out generic "hey sexy" messages. I tended to exchange messages with those had something of substance to say (there were quite a few) but there were just too many of the above sort to reply to all. Since many would keep messaging even if I said I wasn't interested (I therefore had to block them) replying in the first place seemed like it only encouraged them. I met my husband on OKCupid (I messaged him) and he did not experience any of this. I imagine gender has something to do with it.
Ok, I will just answer your reply, because yours is the only one I can read.
I believe the male to female ratio is a little lopsided on those sites, which gives females a larger selection to pick from than males, which means that there will be more males that get rejected. With more rejection comes more frustration, and more desperation, which is why women get all of these "annoying" messages.
To level out the playing field, and to reduce the superficial tendancies of those sites, they need to have a 50/50 male to female ratio, only allow the females to message the guys first, and not allow photo sharing, until you get to know each other first.
idk that that would help. it still lets women window shop, making men a object to shop for rather than a mate.
perhaps if women and men from the site started hooking upt and their profiles were removed it might work, but if not the other women would reject men for the guy who already got hooked up not knowing he did.
Physical appearance matters. It just does. I would not be willing to join any dating site that did not let me see photos from the get go.
