Aspie girls What do guys do wrong?

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Not at all. It would bias him more to end up with NTs, which would give him poorer results and more rejections.

when I researched this quite a while ago, the result was that ND had just as big chance to be with another ND as an NT.

Not at all. It would bias him more to end up with NTs, which would give him poorer results and more rejections.

Why ending up with NTs gives poorer results and more rejection?

Are you saying that an ND girl is statistically just as likely to choose an ND guy as an NT guy? I find this quite hard to believe. Not saying it isn't true, just that it doesn't match with what I see discussed on this forum.

That is not a biological fact...that would be your opinion.

Maybe some guys have the bad luck of pursuing picky women thus to them it can appear all or most must be.

Established science is not "my opinion". Moreover, the reason why it happens is quite well understood. If you're going to deny it without bothering to check your facts, there's little point in dicussing anything.



I don't think that's bad luck at all. I can't fail to notice most women reasonably close to my age have the power to make me wish I could have some physical intimacy with them. It's obvious I don't have such power over them, because otherwise I'd have lots of experience by now. Besides, if they desired me, their need for defensive behaviors to keep me away would be much less.

What off hand accusation? you said I was trying to make you look bad with my responses...which I wasn't, hence you assume too much negative intentions on the part of other people.

Also you assume any women regardless of anything would hate you...and every other autistic male it seems.

Also I was responding to your comment about 'no females have commented yet' and your assumptions as to why that was, since what you described was not my reason for having not posted in this thread...and the way i understood it was it was for general advice and I wasn't sure autistic people give the best 'general' advice just took it a little too literally.

That is not a biological fact...that would be your opinion. Maybe some guys have the bad luck of pursuing picky women thus to them it can appear all or most must be.

From my observation it is lack of sense of humour and social tension (perceived as shyness) that turn women away. This is number one thing women want to see in all men - social relaxation (seen as confidence, proving ability to overcome stress and gain status) and sense of humour (ability to engage socially, relax others and bright mind that can be put to a good use within a social hierarchy).

I told my Aspie friend this:
Learn about NT female emotional needs. On the other Aspie site you would see NT females complaining about their Aspie bf's and husbands not fulfilling their "emotional" needs. Aspie men have a problem understanding this because it has to do with "feelings" which brings "closeness". Nothing logical about it. And it's done in ways that Aspie men are uncomfortable with - eye contact, touching, cuddling, SMALL TALK. That's how NT women connect. Without it, I can't tell you how lonely it is and it is a NEED. If we don't get it, we get very depressed. I'm not even seeing my Aspie friend in person, but its very hard to have a close friendship with him. I can tell he's always holding back. He's not good with small talk. Everything with him is logical. When I brought up to him about fulfilling NT female emotional needs, he wanted a definition. It's a "feeling" And cant be defined. Facial expressions and body language come into it too. Spending quality time listening is a big thing - not doing another activity while listening. He said he would learn more about emotional needs of women. And doing things that don't make sense comes into it too - celebrating Valentines Day, anniversaries, birthdays, etc. Its the thought that gives us the warm, fuzzy feelings and makes us feel closer to the other person.

Established science is not "my opinion". Moreover, the reason why it happens is quite well understood. If you're going to deny it without bothering to check your facts, there's little point in dicussing anything.



I don't think that's bad luck at all. I can't fail to notice most women reasonably close to my age have the power to make me wish I could have some physical intimacy with them. It's obvious I don't have such power over them, because otherwise I'd have lots of experience by now. Besides, if they desired me, their need for defensive behaviors to keep me away would be much less.

The accusation of assuming too much in this case. The OP asked about things those of us women don't like do wrong. Acting like my use of the first person plural is cryptic when talking about the OP's question makes it hard to assume you're not deliberately making fun of me, because I don't know how you could interpret it other than the way I intended---unless, of course, you didn't bother to pay much attention to my post before deciding to criticize it. To top it all, if asking me whether I'm Sméagol/Gollum is not a good reason to feel mocked, I don't know what is.



No, I don't. You are assuming I assume that. I only said I don't know why a woman would help someone she doesn't like deceive her. But I've already said that and I don't like repeating myself, which is the ultimate waste of time.



Again, I didn't assume anything. I said I see no reason why any woman would want to give us the kind of advice the OP requested.