Why do girls stop talking to me on Tinder? Wtf?!

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Rudin
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05 Oct 2015, 6:53 am

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I lol'd. :lol: The sad thing is I would probably make similar "mistakes" too. :P
I'm still not sure if you're just kidding or serious. :lol:

Anyway, my view (with very limited capacities to understand social):
Girl 1: I noticed =) smiley, which seems like good sign for just "hey".
So you brought up Pokemon, which is often considered kids' stuff in popular worldview. But OK, go with it.
You said Charizard is your fave, which is normal for many adults, it's a completely stereotypical choice of people who were kinds in the 90s.
She probably thought you're joking around, mentioning Pokemon.
So she maybe wanted to push the conversation back into hookup territory with her provacative response. I don't think it's standard behavior to mention private parts to a stranger this quickly, or she wanted to say she's looking for sex. Maybe she was already getting pissed off with you just for mentioning Pokemon, that's another explanation for this response, maybe she didn't even intend to reply after this.
But then you "went mad" by taking her seriously and talking self-centered "nerd" stats, I'm pretty sure that would have killed the conversation if the other stuff hasn't already. I'm not sure how to NT-gracefully continue the conversation from there.
If she had said something positive about shellder if she was a fan maybe she would have felt bad for you saying it's a crap poke... but I'm pretty sure she didn't care about it anyways.

Girl 2: Maybe she was turned off by you wanting to scream...... :lol: Maybe she expected you to name some well-known bands' names... I dunno, this doesn't sound like a well-known genre and kinda made up lol, maybe she thought there wasn't any common ground or you're messing with her. Or she thought the screaming part was weird. Definitely wouldn't have mentioned the screaming like that. Maybe the best thing to respond to "music music music" is "[insert genre type X][insert genre type X][insert genre type X] :-)"... who knows...

Girl 3: Is it normal to want to meet up this fast? It's kinda creepy IMO.
If this is acceptable, don't mention McD as a dating location. I know I too am prone to think McD first thing when thinking about restaurants, but well, there are much better suggestions you can make like... meet at a public park or cafe.
"Sure let me take you to mcdonalds and buy you a happy meal. " wording is just completely ridiculous lol, happy meals are meant for kids and the wording... I hope somebody else will explain this cause I don't have the ability to describe how this sounds.

I think these girls were interested but they didn't like what you said.
IMO lot of talk is about how you present the words, like you can maybe get into Pokemon if you don't smash it at someone instantly but rather subtly inject it into the conversation... but it's not a "socially appropriate" thing to just casually talk about with strangers I think.


Nice reply for 1, I didn't even think of that.

I think McDonalds is a great place for a date, if it's quiet. I think she might have thought the OP was childish after mentioning "happy meal". I don't know why everyone thinks he was being creepy, she suggested they meet up.

However, this is not my metaphorical cup of tea.


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05 Oct 2015, 7:00 am

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Did you seriously reply to them like that, or are you just messin' with us? :wink:


I don't think he is. The guy seems pretty serious too me.


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05 Oct 2015, 7:02 am

You should had sent an additional message to girl 3 : Hey, you'll take the toy! I swear!



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05 Oct 2015, 7:30 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Hey, you'll take the toy! I swear!

Lol, no way she'll take it!



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05 Oct 2015, 7:39 am

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You trolled them all, trolling is in your blood :lol:.


Yeah, this.



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05 Oct 2015, 7:49 am

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My take on what you did wrong:

Girl 1. Insulted her taste/intelligence by telling her why you think her fave Pokemon is stupid.

Girl 2. Overkill. A better response would've been "Bluegrass. You?".

Girl 3. Too forward, too fast. Maybe exchange a few more texts, establish a rapport before you suggest meeting up.

Just because you've exchanged one or two messages doesn't mean the girl 100% wants to hook up with you. You might also wanna lose the desperation.


For girl 3, I'm honestly confused about who was too forward or too fast. I mean, it was actually the girl who first suggested that they should hang out, not him, and that was only in her second reply. He merely agreed to it.



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05 Oct 2015, 7:53 am

One time, on an erotic site, a chat went something like this:

Her: Hey babe, wanna roleplay?
Me: Yes, why not.
Her: You lead.
Me: I choose the mage class
Her: ....
Me: (Casting Fireball spell)
Her: What the hell is that?
Me: Me did 15 points damage to you!
Her: f**k OFF YOU NUT!



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05 Oct 2015, 8:32 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
One time, on an erotic site, a chat went something like this:

Her: Hey babe, wanna roleplay?
Me: Yes, why not.
Her: You lead.
Me: I choose the mage class
Her: ....
Me: (Casting Fireball spell)
Her: What the hell is that?
Me: Me did 15 points damage to you!
Her: f**k OFF YOU NUT!


:lol: She likely had something very different in mind when you asked her if she wanted to "role play".



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05 Oct 2015, 8:34 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
One time, on an erotic site, a chat went something like this:

Her: Hey babe, wanna roleplay?
Me: Yes, why not.
Her: You lead.
Me: I choose the mage class
Her: ....
Me: (Casting Fireball spell)
Her: What the hell is that?
Me: Me did 15 points damage to you!
Her: f**k OFF YOU NUT!

What a mage, you made her disappear! :o



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05 Oct 2015, 8:41 am

Jono wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
One time, on an erotic site, a chat went something like this:

!


:lol: She likely had something very different in mind when you asked her if she wanted to "role play".


She asked me to role play.



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05 Oct 2015, 8:51 am

When I was young back in the MSN messenger days, I was used to put this http://www.39dollarglasses.com/blog/wp- ... lasses.jpg as avatar.

Her: Cute monkey!
Me: Monkey? This is actually me, I was born like this :(
Her: I am soooo sorry =(((
Her: How did that happen? =(((
Me: Genetic mutation :( dad ate too much bananas.



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05 Oct 2015, 9:17 am

Ahahahahhahah!
Troll or not, I love this thread. ^^

IMO this is a real problem for some Aspies like me.
I notice when I chat (which I don't for a reason, lol) I don't even try to make sense of the stuff written, like I don't even look for context/meaning or think about good replies, I don't look for innuendo/flirting and just write whatever comes to mind. :roll: :roll:
Seriously, when I used to chat with strangers I wanted to have rational discussions lol... even overt flirting which I might understand feels unnatural/instead offensive/I don't even notice and I want it to go away = ignore it.
It wouldn't even occur to me to ask someone overly personal questions let alone about meeting up (because my teeth are hideous and mannerisms completely dysfunctional). ^^



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05 Oct 2015, 9:30 am

Peacesells wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
One time, on an erotic site, a chat went something like this:

Her: Hey babe, wanna roleplay?
Me: Yes, why not.
Her: You lead.
Me: I choose the mage class
Her: ....
Me: (Casting Fireball spell)
Her: What the hell is that?
Me: Me did 15 points damage to you!
Her: f**k OFF YOU NUT!

What a mage, you made her disappear! :o


Nope, it was a fire mage subclass, not an illusionist mage.

Noobs...



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05 Oct 2015, 11:59 am

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As you see some guys say stuff like "women are evil, they hate me, they ditch me for no reason, etc etc" but it's their own fault in the end.

Not always. A lot of people on free dating sites don't actually want to date.


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05 Oct 2015, 12:09 pm

DevilKisses wrote:
Peacesells wrote:
As you see some guys say stuff like "women are evil, they hate me, they ditch me for no reason, etc etc" but it's their own fault in the end.

Not always. A lot of people on free dating sites don't actually want to date.


Because they've nothing better to do than mess with people's heads? I've a hard time believing that, given that something like 1/3 of people now meet their husband/wife online.