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06 Apr 2019, 12:52 pm

Well its legal since shes not underage....but I mean yeah most people would probably find that at least a little strange. Granted there certainly are some couples with big age gaps that claim they are happy together and they love each other , some even larger than a 30 year old dating a 19 year old like maybe 60-70 dating people in early 20s. I was actually watching a show about it...certainly interesting but yeah a lot of times these couples get strange or even mean reactions like people saying mean things to them on the street.

I mean its not my preference I would not want a relationship with someone so much older but some people are into that, and I don't feel I really am in a position to judge them as 'wrong' as long as it doesn't involve one party being underage.

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06 Apr 2019, 12:55 pm

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I'd personally be against it, but that's just me. The age gap is pretty big, a 30 year old dating a teenager does not compute in my brain.

Legally anyone over 18 can have sex with whoever they choose that's also over 18...gets a little more complicated if you're 18 trying to date a 16-17 year old in some states and have sex since there are some stringent underage laws in some states. But that's a different topic.

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06 Apr 2019, 2:27 pm

Why the sad face?

I see nothing wrong with this sort of relationship in most cases.

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06 Apr 2019, 2:33 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

Why the sad face?

I see nothing wrong with this sort of relationship in most cases.

Most see it as horrible and creepy.
Should pass a law so you can only date and marry someone the exact same age.

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06 Apr 2019, 2:34 pm

Of course you’re not serious lol

When I was a 19 year old male, I had a great desire for a 38 year old woman.

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06 Apr 2019, 2:36 pm

sly279 wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

Why the sad face?

I see nothing wrong with this sort of relationship in most cases.

Most see it as horrible and creepy.
Should pass a law so you can only date and marry someone the exact same age.

Some, not most.

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06 Apr 2019, 2:46 pm

It depends on the situation.

That would be the best answer.

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06 Apr 2019, 4:00 pm

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It may be legal but that doesn't mean it's not creepy. A 19 year old is still a teenager that just got out of high school a year ago while a 30 year old is a full grown adult that's probably old enough to have a child of their own. If a 30 year old man wants to date a 19 year old girl, he should get used to being called a cradle robber and a creep if he decides to tell people about his relationship. Just saying.

& the 19 year-old should get used to being called Grave Robber :lol:

Seriously I think as long as both parties are capable of making their own decisions about who to date & noone is being manipulated & the realtionship works for both of them, then I see nothing wrong.

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06 Apr 2019, 11:29 pm

For sex and hookup it is ok.

For marriage... not much, big gap.

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07 Apr 2019, 1:48 am

kraftiekortie wrote:

Of course you’re not serious lol

When I was a 19 year old male, I had a great desire for a 38 year old woman.

I’d bet older woman younger man is ok just like how when a 25 year old sex with a 14 year old boy, people are ok with it but if it’s a 14 old girl with a 25 year old man irs horrible and people want him hanged.

I dont know such a law would enforce equality.

I’m a bad guy for wanting to date a 20-26 year old woman.

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07 Apr 2019, 6:40 am

Nobody who has any sanity would think you’re a bad guy for dating young 20s women.

You’re meeting some really funny people. I don’t hang out with that sort of person who believes that garbage.

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07 Apr 2019, 6:46 am

kraftiekortie wrote:

Nobody who has any sanity would think you’re a bad guy for dating young 20s women.

You’re meeting some really funny people. I don’t hang out with that sort of person who believes that garbage.

QFT

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07 Apr 2019, 1:47 pm

I’m almost 26 and couldn’t date a guy under 22. I’m attracted to people also in their 20s. So a 30 or above year old is out of the question for me.

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07 Apr 2019, 2:01 pm

sly279 wrote:

ust like how when a 25 year old sex with a 14 year old boy, people are ok with it but if it’s a 14 old girl with a 25 year old man irs horrible and people want him hanged.

This actually is not that uncommon where I'm from.

My grandpa was about 12 or 14 years older than my grandma & they started dating when she was in her late teens.

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07 Apr 2019, 2:22 pm

I mean personally I turn 19 this year, and I could never imagine dating a thirty year old man. I dont think me or my parents would feel comfortable with that situation. Its not the age gap that bothers me though. Like a 30 and 40 year old sure, but teenagers and thirties seems like a big gap in age, maturity, and experience. Id prefer to date someone close to my own age.

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