Lukeda420 wrote:
For some reason the majority of girls I exchange messages with online will respond three or four times and then disappear. I don't understand why this happens so often. I'm always polite so there is no way I creeped them out or anything. I don't know why they respond in the first place if they don't want to talk. The fact that I'm talking to them on an online dating site should signal that I have a romantic interest in the person. It's usually only 7 or 8 messages between us before it stops, so there is not even enough to get glimpse of what each other are like. It's frustrating, I'm not a very good writer and it takes a lot of effort to compose a message, even a short one. So the fact that it takes me so much makes it frustrating to have to deal with these short conversations that don't go anywhere. Or worse yet getting a response that makes no attempt to reciprocate the conversation. I don't know, I might just be ranting.
If you don't like the response you get -- "that makes no attempt to reciprocate the conversation" -- you aren't obligated to respond. Why bother expending words and electrons on a girl who clearly isn't whatever it is you are looking for?
Sending and responding to messages on an online dating site certainly signals romantic interest. I'm assuming you get messages from girls you're not interested in, in addition to the ones you've deemed substandard.
As for why the girls stop responding after just a few messages, there are an infinite number of reasons, including but by no means limited to:
1. You're messages aren't as polite as you think they are.
2. You respond so quickly that it spooks them.
3. You wait so long to respond that they think you're not that interested.
4. They've met someone and decided to be exclusive with them and thus are no longer interested in you.
5. Their computer and cell phone were stolen and they cannot access the Internet.
6. Exchanging a total of 7-8 messages is enough to decide they don't like you.
7. They died or were seriously injured in an accident, ie comatose and unable to respond, have amnesia, etc.
8. They've detected that you've "deemed them substandard" or are likely to and are no longer interested.
9. They sense you're judgemental and lose interest as a result.
Perhaps you should "invest" less in each casual email exchange, because even exchanging 10 or 20 messages doesn't guarantee that any one girl will want to meet you in IRL... so you'll be less likely to take a normal part of online dating as "rejection".