She's interested in me, but she's not answering my text?

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AspieGuy96
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15 Nov 2015, 7:28 pm

The story: I took a bus to the mall yesterday because I was alone as always, bored, and nothing better to do.

I felt like taking a risk and ask for girls numbers like those edgy kids on YouTube. But I didn't use corny pickup lines, I was being myself, smiled, and just straight up asked.

To my surprise, I got a girl's number on the first try. The conversation actually went really well and it wasn't that awkward. She was interested and actually wanted to talk back. Smooth sailing. We learned a lot.

We then exchanged numbers, and texted for a bit. When I ran out of convos I said I had to leave, and took the bus back home.

Also, she works at a concession stand. We did more actual talking in person rather than texting. I mean we didn't really have an actual conversation through text.

I still have her number so I texted today saying: "I had a nice time talking to you yesterday and I'd like to see you again. Let's meet up."

She didn't answer back. Should I go back to find her at her concession stand? Or is that too creepy and stalkerish? Or does she want me to? Did I do something wrong? I don't understand, everything was perfect. There was a connection and she was interested. What do I do? Did I blow my chance?



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15 Nov 2015, 7:37 pm

Give her more time. Maybe a day tops.


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15 Nov 2015, 8:22 pm

Yup. Give it more time, and don't text her again, unless she responds. Sometimes people have their phones turned off, or don't check them that much.



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15 Nov 2015, 9:28 pm

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The story: I took a bus to the mall yesterday because I was alone as always, bored, and nothing better to do.

I felt like taking a risk and ask for girls numbers like those edgy kids on YouTube. But I didn't use corny pickup lines, I was being myself, smiled, and just straight up asked.

To my surprise, I got a girl's number on the first try. The conversation actually went really well and it wasn't that awkward. She was interested and actually wanted to talk back. Smooth sailing. We learned a lot.

We then exchanged numbers, and texted for a bit. When I ran out of convos I said I had to leave, and took the bus back home.

Also, she works at a concession stand. We did more actual talking in person rather than texting. I mean we didn't really have an actual conversation through text.

I still have her number so I texted today saying: "I had a nice time talking to you yesterday and I'd like to see you again. Let's meet up."

She didn't answer back. Should I go back to find her at her concession stand? Or is that too creepy and stalkerish? Or does she want me to? Did I do something wrong? I don't understand, everything was perfect. There was a connection and she was interested. What do I do? Did I blow my chance?

Yeah, don't go back that's kind of weird. If she wants to reach out she will. Give it some time. Maybe she is tired or going through something. Just because someone doesn't respond doesn't mean that that is because you did something wrong. Sometimes it isn't anything about you she might just be busy!



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15 Nov 2015, 9:35 pm

Good for you.

I think you should wait. If she doesn't respond come a few days, perhaps confront her or call her.


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15 Nov 2015, 9:56 pm

Rudin wrote:
Good for you.

I think you should wait. If she doesn't respond come a few days, perhaps confront her or call her.


Confront her?
It's really not a confrontational thing. You don't need to have a whole blow-out about " Why didn't you respond?!" That just reeks of desperation which is extremely unattractive...

Just let it be. If she doesn't respond- then she doesn't respond; it isn't a big deal.Move onto the next girl. There are plenty.
Maybe call her if you want, but don't make it a huge deal.



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16 Nov 2015, 4:44 am

Probably gave her number to avoid awkwardness in the moment(common reason). I have a better question, so how does a girl politely get-out of giving a guy their number when they don't want to?



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16 Nov 2015, 5:21 am

If you don't hear back in a day or two, she is not interested. Let it go buddy.



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16 Nov 2015, 5:57 am

She is not interested in you.



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16 Nov 2015, 7:21 am

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Probably gave her number to avoid awkwardness in the moment(common reason). I have a better question, so how does a girl politely get-out of giving a guy their number when they don't want to?


"No thanks. I am not interested."


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16 Nov 2015, 7:52 am

I've read stories posted girls on how some guys react aggressively/rudely to rejections, so they resort to other tactics such as giving false number or claiming to have a boyfriend..etc.

OP, it might not even be her number.



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16 Nov 2015, 8:22 am

Rudin wrote:
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Probably gave her number to avoid awkwardness in the moment(common reason). I have a better question, so how does a girl politely get-out of giving a guy their number when they don't want to?


"No thanks. I am not interested."


That works if it's not in a rude tone-of-voice, and also if the conversation ends immediately after that, then the two people part ways. However, in the OP's case she was stuck next to him on a bus for a bit.

@thefaceofboo, they texted for a bit while right near each other on the bus.



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16 Nov 2015, 10:35 am

Venger wrote:
Rudin wrote:
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Probably gave her number to avoid awkwardness in the moment(common reason). I have a better question, so how does a girl politely get-out of giving a guy their number when they don't want to?


"No thanks. I am not interested."


That works if it's not in a rude tone-of-voice, and also if the conversation ends immediately after that, then the two people part ways. However, in the OP's case she was stuck next to him on a bus for a bit.

@thefaceofboo, they texted for a bit while right near each other on the bus.


Ah, oops, I didn't read the whole story.

But still...she's not interested.



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17 Nov 2015, 8:54 am

Give it a bit more time. If she never replies then she is not interested and most likely gave you her number because she felt bad declining.



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17 Nov 2015, 8:38 pm

Alright guys, here's the scoop:

The day after, I texted, no reply. Then the next day, I called, no reply. Nothing from her since that day at the mall. GAME OVER.

What I learned from this experience is: Getting a girl's number means only half the battle is over, after I get it (if I'm lucky enough to even get it) I should seize the moment and converse as long as possible (if she's open minded enough) and establish a date with a specific place and time. In other words, simply getting a number doesn't always mean you've won the girl. http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2011/11/g ... age/all/1/

Btw, for those of you who are confused, I said she works at a concession stand. You know, those little mini-shops inside of malls where a person sells gifts, souvenirs, and other novelty items to the shoppers. We weren't on a bus.

As much as I want to go back to meet her at her concession stand, I won't, it's not worth it. It might come off as creepy/stalkerish. I missed my chance and I didn't seize the moment. Now I'm planning on going to a different nearby mall this Friday to push my luck again with some more girls. I'm gonna do it, but I just don't feel up to it much. I barely have any motivation left. I've lost faith in humanity and I can't trust people, especially females.

Every time I try to take one step forward, this doggone syndrome pushes me two steps back. I can't believe I still keep going after so many years of getting played countless times. I keep going because sometimes I get so close to the dream I can almost taste it. I know the right person is out there somewhere hiding among the millions of b.s.-ers. Whether it be the mall or a dating site as a last resort, I'm gonna make it one day. I know because I've had an actual, legitimate girlfriend once as a freshman.

someday I will

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17 Nov 2015, 10:46 pm

AspieGuy96 wrote:
Alright guys, here's the scoop:

The day after, I texted, no reply. Then the next day, I called, no reply. Nothing from her since that day at the mall. GAME OVER.

What I learned from this experience is: Getting a girl's number means only half the battle is over, after I get it (if I'm lucky enough to even get it) I should seize the moment and converse as long as possible (if she's open minded enough) and establish a date with a specific place and time. In other words, simply getting a number doesn't always mean you've won the girl. http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2011/11/g ... age/all/1/

Btw, for those of you who are confused, I said she works at a concession stand. You know, those little mini-shops inside of malls where a person sells gifts, souvenirs, and other novelty items to the shoppers. We weren't on a bus.

As much as I want to go back to meet her at her concession stand, I won't, it's not worth it. It might come off as creepy/stalkerish. I missed my chance and I didn't seize the moment. Now I'm planning on going to a different nearby mall this Friday to push my luck again with some more girls. I'm gonna do it, but I just don't feel up to it much. I barely have any motivation left. I've lost faith in humanity and I can't trust people, especially females.

Every time I try to take one step forward, this doggone syndrome pushes me two steps back. I can't believe I still keep going after so many years of getting played countless times. I keep going because sometimes I get so close to the dream I can almost taste it. I know the right person is out there somewhere hiding among the millions of b.s.-ers. Whether it be the mall or a dating site as a last resort, I'm gonna make it one day. I know because I've had an actual, legitimate girlfriend once as a freshman.

someday I will

Someday, somehow
I'm gonna make it alright but not right now http://www.lyricsfreak.com/n/nickelback ... 92423.html


Um, good for you for figuring that out but it ain't news.

As a girl, I've actually found that if a guy asks for my number and I give it, there's only a 50% chance he'll call. If he calls, there's a 50% chance I will want to go out with him. If we go out, there's a 50% chance we will BOTH have had enough fun to wanna do it again.

Dating's a process.