Would you date someone you didn't want to marry?

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Would you date someone you didn't want to marry?
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26 Jan 2016, 3:18 pm

Nope. Now it they had something that I was attracted to such as a great personality or the same beliefs, then I would because I might end up falling in love with them and then want to marry them. If I knew there just was no way I would ever want to marry them, then NO, I wouldn't keep dating them. It would be wasting both of our times. I might remain friends if they wanted that and do fun things together, but nothing more.


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26 Jan 2016, 3:52 pm

I would date, but no marriage, I also say never say never. What if you are dating Mr. Right. My mom told me you have to date ALOT like kiss a thousand frogs to find your Prince. I never dated before, but I talked to ALOT of men on dating sites, I don't know if that count.


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26 Jan 2016, 5:08 pm

Nope, I wouldn't.


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26 Jan 2016, 7:06 pm

Yes because I never want to get married :lol:


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28 Jan 2016, 1:22 am

nurseangela wrote:
Nope. Now it they had something that I was attracted to such as a great personality or the same beliefs, then I would because I might end up falling in love with them and then want to marry them.


Don't you have to fall in love before you start dating someone?



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28 Jan 2016, 2:25 am

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I don't know. I'd have to know what kind of person I'd want to date first and who would even date me.


Scratch that, no I wouldn't. About marriage though, I dunno if I ever actually want to get married in the sense of the financial contract that most people do.


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28 Jan 2016, 2:36 am

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nurseangela wrote:
Nope. Now it they had something that I was attracted to such as a great personality or the same beliefs, then I would because I might end up falling in love with them and then want to marry them.


Don't you have to fall in love before you start dating someone?

Personally I can't fall in love with someone I haven't dated (for a while) yet.



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28 Jan 2016, 3:54 am

No, and I wouldn't date (in the usual sense) anybody. I also wouldn't waste time on anybody I wouldn't consider material for a long-term relationship. Social games and flings never appealed to me.



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28 Jan 2016, 3:59 am

yellowtamarin wrote:
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nurseangela wrote:
Nope. Now it they had something that I was attracted to such as a great personality or the same beliefs, then I would because I might end up falling in love with them and then want to marry them.


Don't you have to fall in love before you start dating someone?

Personally I can't fall in love with someone I haven't dated (for a while) yet.


For me, it's more like I won't fall in love with anybody that is not appealing for a long-term relationship. I don't need dating to figure out if somebody is appealing for a long-term relationship. I would figure that out by how they behave towards me and others over time.



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28 Jan 2016, 8:19 am

Nope.

Naturally, getting to know said person prior to "dating" is how it goes. If people can't wait around being friends first, then they aren't that type of person anyway.


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28 Jan 2016, 2:07 pm

Well I think it would be sort of hard to determine if you'd want to commit to a relationship...let alone an official marriage without dating the guy first. I've never gotten involved with someone I for sure never would have considered marrying but that's not really on my mind in the beginning of a relationship. That seems like something that comes later on if you and your boyfriend/girlfriend decide you really do want to stay together and support each other.

With my current boyfriend I didn't know how things would go after our first date, I didn't even know if he'd actually end up being my boyfriend....let alone how long it would last if he was. But now its gotten serious enough we're both sure we want to be with each other and only each other and even talking about living together so eventually it might happen. If it did I imagine we'd skip the Christian esque ceremony and all that madness that goes with it, just figure out paperwork stuff lol.


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31 Jan 2016, 12:43 am

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With my current boyfriend I didn't know how things would go after our first date, I didn't even know if he'd actually end up being my boyfriend....


Don't you become boyfriend and girlfriend on the first date? That's news to me. If not, when is the "I now pronounce you boyfriend and girlfriend, you may kiss the bride" moment?



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31 Jan 2016, 4:56 am

I'm already in a relationship with several people that I don't intend to marry, but none the less... Yes, yes I have, and would, date someone I didn't intend to marry, but I have been, and will continue to be, upfront with them about this.


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31 Jan 2016, 7:03 am

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nurseangela wrote:
Nope. Now it they had something that I was attracted to such as a great personality or the same beliefs, then I would because I might end up falling in love with them and then want to marry them.


Don't you have to fall in love before you start dating someone?


No. You date first.


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31 Jan 2016, 7:07 am

nurseangela wrote:
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nurseangela wrote:
Nope. Now it they had something that I was attracted to such as a great personality or the same beliefs, then I would because I might end up falling in love with them and then want to marry them.


Don't you have to fall in love before you start dating someone?


No. You date first.


To be fair, it could happen either way.


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