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Kitty4670
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18 Mar 2016, 11:06 pm

I talked to Jeff Wednesday, I told him that I like him, you don't have to like me back then I walked away, I came back shortly later, I asked him do you like me, he told me he is married.

I really embarrassed myself with Jeff, I felt so stupid! On my way home, I started to cry, my neighbors found me sitting on my porch crying. The next day, I woke up very depressed, I stayed in bed until almost 2 PM.



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18 Mar 2016, 11:40 pm

They'll be other guys, sweetie.

He's married. Nothing you can do.

Never give up!

You're very nice, and deserve a nice man.



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19 Mar 2016, 9:42 am

You did not embarrass yourself. But, I understand the feelings of embarrassment. What you did was natural.

Actually, I am in awe of the fact that you were brave enough to put yourself out there. It is more than I can do. And, I've been married three freaking times.

I say bully for you and I hope you feel better.


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20 Mar 2016, 4:28 pm

I am rarely brave enough, but last Wednesday, I was at the coffee house & Jeff was the only one working there, it was almost closing time, & I finally got enough courage to tell him then I walked away, but I came back. I did really embarrassed myself with Jeff, I NEVER opening up to a guy again! He was the first guy that I had a crush on in over 3 years. On Thursday & Friday, I didn't go to the coffee house, Friday I went to the restaurant, I was doing fine & I was hungry, I passed the coffee house & saw Jeff, I got to the restaurant, I ordered my fave salad, took a few bites then lost my appetite. Every Friday, my town has a street fair, there were live music, I was sitting on a bench near the coffee house to listen to the music. Jeff keep coming outside, I wish he didn't see me, once he was sitting in the coffee house chair, he was sitting there for awhile. Tomorrow, I will walk a different way to avoid seeing the coffee house & I know he is working tomorrow, I NEVER want to see him again. I still want him, but I have to forget him.



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20 Mar 2016, 4:56 pm

Yeah, that was really embarrassing as hell.

Next time use facebook to know whether a guy is in relationship or not.



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20 Mar 2016, 5:08 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Yeah, that was really embarrassing as hell.

Next time use facebook to know whether a guy is in relationship or not.


Please. :roll:

It was really brave, and I admire her courage.

So he is married, no harm in asking.

Kitty4670 I'm proud of you. Well done for asking. It is not the result you hoped, however you did what you had to, which is admirable.

Don't let this set you back too much. Pick yourself up and dust yourself off.



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21 Mar 2016, 5:33 am

^ Brave but it wasn't smart.

She could saved herself the embarrassment by simply asking one of his colleagues or by checking his name on social media (if he has any) or whatever....



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21 Mar 2016, 1:42 pm

I'm really sorry to hear that. You didn't take the coward's way out, like I do, which is to say nothing. I'm sorry it didn't work out the way you had hoped. At least now you know where you stand.



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21 Mar 2016, 3:32 pm

Maybe take it as a learning experience, its no reason to never open up to a guy again...its very common when people develop a crush that their 'crush' wont be interested in them or could already be taken/unavailable. I think that you finally asked him is good since it gives you experience even if he did say no.

Just don't beat yourself up about it, I've had a crush on a guy at my school for the longest time and eventually came to realize he had no interest whatsoever in me...sure it was kind of disappointing but after thinking about it I doubt me and him would have had much in common anyways I just liked his looks. I realize when this happened i was probably younger than you are now but still I can kind of relate to having a crush and finding out they aren't interested after all.


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21 Mar 2016, 4:04 pm

This wasn't my first time embarrassing myself for a guy.



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21 Mar 2016, 4:07 pm

Kitty4670 wrote:
This wasn't my first time embarrassing myself for a guy.
It won't be the last. It's all part of it. But, I get you. Any rejection can be so devastating. I can't tell you how much I've embarrassed myself...


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21 Mar 2016, 4:18 pm

zkydz wrote:
Kitty4670 wrote:
This wasn't my first time embarrassing myself for a guy.
It won't be the last. It's all part of it. But, I get you. Any rejection can be so devastating. I can't tell you how much I've embarrassed myself...

Thanks for understanding. I wish I didn't want him still, but I know I have to forget him. At least I'm not going to the coffee house anymore.



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21 Mar 2016, 6:07 pm

Oh Kitty!

They'll be other guys.

You were brave. Don't let anybody tell you otherwise.

I'm sure Jeff was flattered.

But he's a married man.

And you have to move on, Kitty. There's no other option here.



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21 Mar 2016, 6:10 pm

The last time I was out socially, I got rather drunk in an effort to actually socialise, I managed to ask a barmaid out for coffee. I am mortally embarrassed by this and will probably never venture into that pub again.

I'm still alive though, can't be that bad.

Oh, she refused and gave me the gentle let down of 'I've got a boyfriend'. Which could also be a threat now that I think on it.



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21 Mar 2016, 6:15 pm

It's better than the girl complying, having sex with you, then having the boyfriend bang down the door!

I once had something happen to me that was somewhat similar.

I took a girl out to the movies. We had a great time. I offered to walk her home. She said I shouldn't. I insisted, anyway. I walked her to her door, and her boyfriend and his pals were waiting for me. All they did, though, was tear up my pockets and take $200. Luckily, I still had a subway token, so I could go home. This was 30 years ago.



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21 Mar 2016, 6:27 pm

To kraftiekortie; I know I need to move on. I'm avoiding going to the coffee house, but I miss going there, I wish I can go there now to eat, but I'm not going there, he's working today.