Making a personal dating profile

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How do you make a personal dating profile, not literally as in an online profile, but so I can keep track of myself and what I want from a partner.

Apologies bit I don't quite understand could you explain a bit? I don't want to give you advice that's not needed

How do I write down on paper what I'm looking for in a partner?

I do know a few things off the bat are:
> Self-esteem (chronic anxiety, low body image, etc. are a major turn-off)
> Shares my sense of humor (it's tricky, I'm afraid if we didn't share our type of humor, we'd fail in a relationship)
> Physically attractive (though I can't really quantify a certain degree on a scale from 1 to 10). Also, that probably eliminates the first one as far as low body image goes.

You can always create a spread-sheet. Keep track of the categories that are important to you.

^ Were you ever in a bad relationship with a woman who had all the qualities you hate. I feel you, man.

Less OCD and more because it's related to my levels of motivation/productivity.

That's a really interesting list, do you have ocd with cleanliness?

Also it may be a hard list to achieve but good luck

OK so I have a few physical ideas in mind:

> Natural blonde, kinky curly hairstyle (too bad, I think the adult population of natural blondes are dying very quick I hope that's wrong

> Athletic body type

I have a girlfriend right now, but I'm ending my relationship with her soon. Why? Well, she's very sweet, and other people told her she is very beautiful, but she has some emotional maturity issues, and I am not sexually attracted to her on top of that. It sucks.

In general try and stay away from the negative on a dating profile and frame things in the positive instead. Giving physical preferences is generally frowned on so if you do mention it do so in passing like, "I'm active and prefer someone who is also active", just don't obsess on the physical, it's fine to give a brief mention but make it a few sentences and an after thought.

Agree with the last post. Besides being to specific about physical features, I would also be careful about mentioning specific character traits. What about focussing mainly on activities or interests? Like favourite hobby, book, movie, actress, in a way that people can deduct what type of person you are and you are looking for.
In my dating days (glad I'm done with that), there were many profiles with interests as: football, basketball, dancing, karate, cars, riding motor bike, all kinds of sports and other "menly" activities. I tried "travelling, reading, daydreaming". Especially "daydreaming" attracted the right type of dreamy persons that do not like sport like me
(actually only two, but still enough; besides some 10 or more golddiggers from countries like Nigeria, skipped that)

I'm a neat freak.....................................

So I wish he could take care of his place clean and organized, but it's not a deal breaker if he's not. It's just a wish list on my potential dating profile.

^ What about.... him showering you?

You know, since he's a neat freak, and not because of something else.

Tom,

or anyone else for that matter, relationship is a mutual partnership, so basically you have to consider girls have their own preferences as well. If you want an athletic girl you may have to face the fact that girl would like to date only athletic guys too...

And if you think about getting another GF while you still have one, ahh that's a bad sign (think long term). So... one by one, first decide whether to end your current relationship then plan ahead.