Anyone relate to feeling like this?

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always feeling incomplete, but always falling for the wrong people who have no interest in you, but not being able to forget about them and find someone new so you waste all your emotions on that one person who barely notices you exist.

Its a damn sad way to live based my experiences. Then people wonder why I'm so bitter when it comes to love "when I've never actually been in love" according to them.

Thoughts please.

I have felt that way numerous times.

Tim

I have been VERY guilty of this and am working on trying to not allow it to happen again...ie, learning to let go as soon as it becomes clear the love is unrequited instead of clinging on and wasting precious time that could be spent with someone who will accept you and love you and for whom your feelings are to be acceptable. But in the end, you cannot control who you fall in love with, I don't think... only how you respond to those feelings and to their feelings or lack of.

I think it happens to all aspies, the life of an aspie through my eyes sucks most of the time having bad things thrown at them when they really dont want it. if anyone thinks i am wrong in saying this please say so please.

The best thing to do is to proberbly try and contain your feelings.
Use a calculated aproach finding out if you have a chance before you allow yourself to get serious feelings.
Than if you know there is some kind of possibility you give it a shot.
This way you won't simply get hurt over every person you like.

Ofcourse not everyone can use this approach.
I know there are people who just can't stop falling in love head over heels.
But the world is cruel on people like that.
The odds of some random person just wanting a relationship with you aren't great.

Well if they are like me the odds are good, i would love a relationship as long as they have a good personality and i get along with them i will be happy.

I haven’t “fallen” (that’s a pretty good movie too) for anyone…so I couldn’t tell you. I’m sure if I “fell” I’d let them know upfront, at least by a written word…I see no point in social “games”, it just prolongs the inevitable.

I’d probably have to know someone for like seventy trillion years to tell whether I’ve fallen; have I said that I hate deception?

Its so hard for me to know when there is no chance and to control obsessions. I must admit each time I get better at how much I out my life on hold for that person, but the obsession is still there. Sometimes I wish I could just NOT feel emotions and not care about other people so much. I am addicted to the horrible pain of wanting somone so unattainable.