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ok. I have a problem coping with my new life

I have been in relationships almost constantly since i was 14 (only 2 bf though)
and now i'm 22.
I moved from my parents to my first bf and then from him to a school (where
you live) And then from my school to my next bf.

I was together with my last boyfriend for 6 years and now we broke up. For my
sanity it was a good thing but my feelings keep lying to me and don't seem to let
him go. We have some contact still but whenever we meet i have to fight him off
since he really want to get me in bed.

I know that the best thing for me would be to stop having contact with him but this
is so hard to do. I still feel the same about him as always (Don't think it's love though,
Never really felt that). I just can't handle to see and hear him getting over me.

A heartbreak is bad enough but now i stand on my on two legs (or truthfully crawling on four)
I live alone for the first time and everything is so hard. Bills, cleaning, Cooking. This is also
during a time when i recently found out about my AS and ADHD. I am now in waiting
for an evaluation.

Has anyone else gone through this or have any advice on how I can start my "grown up"
life. I only have one friend (also Aspie) and can't work so I don't get out much.

This might seem very unstructured, but hey, not really my strong side . I would be really happy
for all responses

There are so many responsibilities to keep track of when you live on your own, it can be overwhelming at first. But don't let this discourage you. If you run from it, you will end up dependent on boyfriends and parents forever.... and that is no way to live!

My solution to "getting stuff done" is keeping lists. Every day I would make a list of the mundane things that need to be done. I don't makes lists as often now, but it was certainly a useful tool in getting life started.

Keeping lists is a very good advice that i will definetely try.

You're right about being dependent on someone else is a bad thing.
The last year of our relationship he took care of me. I could not do
much so he did everything.

It takes alot on your selfesteem when you are nothing but a burden
to everyone

Thank you for your great advises