Are most men struggling to get healthy weight women?

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My current girlfriend & my 2nd are pretty big but weight was not a factor for me when trying to find a girlfriend. I mostly just wanted someone who would give me a real chance & actually try to make a relationship work with me. I have alot of physical & mental disabilities & was single & looking for a long time so I wasn't too picky with what I wanted in a partner. I was about a normal wight when I got in all 3 relationships but I'm fat now because I started eating 3 meals a day due to the meds & supplements I'm on & I also binge eat. I used to eat one meal a day & pig out but now I eat 3 meals a day & pig out for at least one of em & also pig out on snacks. It also doesn't help that my girlfriend snacks because of depression which makes me want to snack too & I cant control myself when I start. The binging could be related to side-effects of meds I'm on but I'm not sure. I really need to start exercising again but I'm not binging quite as much now.

For me at least, weight is definitely not a deal breaker for me. If you're obsessed with your future partner's weight, you might want to re-evaluate yourself a bit.

I'm still struggling to get a healthy weight woman but if my girlfriend sticks to her diet I might succeed.

I actually don't see that much "fat-shaming" here.

What a god awful thread!

Aspies get rightfully angry at NTs for judging them but then do a flip and don't have a problem judging women who are "overweight" as undesirable? shocking levels of hypocrisy here from multiple male posters

As one get's older looks fade...please find a partner on the basis of how well you get on and how much you have in common. Of course if you are into marathon running or mountain climbing then obviously you aren't going to have much in common with an overweight partner. But I suspect many of the males here play video games and lead sedentary lives - you lot can't expect your life partner to meet the expectations of a supermodel.

Please take a reality check

I don’t judge women for being fat. I still find them attractive but I do find thin women more so. It’s biology. Some men can’t find fat women attractive and as such judge and insult fat women.

You don’t have to find anyone attractive. But assuming you deserve better than what you don’t like is pathetic. A lot of the men here are unable to see how grossly unattractive their personality is, yet expect a thin woman because they’re not fat themselves.

It doesn’t work like that. Being a healthy weight means nothing if you have nothing else going for you.

No one wants a healthy weight guy with a crap personality and no social skills. It’s just not realistic.

I am fit and trim, and physically attractive. I am 41 and look 25. Before I met my Aspie wife, people were always shocked to hear that I had no girlfriend and that none of my relationships ever worked out. Its not your looks bro.

On a side note, my wife is short, plump and padded, which is just the kind of woman that I am physically attracted to. To the females here, not all men want Barbie. In fact, I find Barbie repulsive.