Once and for all, the proof that dating sites=sausage fests

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Value of a single man is a lot lower than a single woman, it's just a simple fact. Women don't need men to provide for them and it's become fashionable to have children out of wedlock, people do not care about bringing 2 families together anymore so the power dynamic has shifted so much you have this meat market mentality in an age of rampant narcissism. Not a good combination.

Men vastly outweigh the women?? This is not surprising at all =)

The real question is why is this so important to you?

And I still was never overwhelmed by tons of messages during my time on okcupid, maybe a couple messages per week if that.

Lol maybe you should use the criteria women looking for men and then reduce your search area to specific regions then the entire world, and you will see there are indeed women on dating sites.

Sweetleaf's profile picture is very intimidating.

The title of this thread makes me hungry for sausage.

I completely agree that it's a lot harder as a male to connect with someone on a dating site Boo and that women are flooded with a lot of messages from males as well. I completely get what you are saying and understand your frustration here.

I've been on a few dates with women who I met on dating sites and I'd ask them what it's like from their perspective. All of the women would tell me that most men that message them are, in relationships, married, clingy within the very first day of talking, can't keep a conversation going, lewd, send penis picture, or ask for nudes.

I would tell them about how from my experiences, I can read a woman's profile and send them a message that shows I genuinely read what they had to say, about 100 times, and maybe get one response back.

Also, I find it annoying how so many people post deceptive picture with angles that make them look skinny when they are overweight. Don't get me wrong, people have every right to be overweight if they want, but I work on my health, and take working out seriously, so my personal body preference in a partner ranges from curvy to fit. I just don't find obese attractive and it seems like so many people lie about this online as I have been on some very surprising dates when I meet the person and they look nothing like their pictures.

With all of this being said, I did meet my current girlfriend on OKC and we do have a lot in common. Granted, before the first date, conversing was rather rough as I personally like to get to know someone in person before I go on a date with them. It helps me feel at ease I guess.

Here is an observation about your many posts about your disdain for online dating.

Feel free not to do it. No one is forcing you to and you do have valid points, but from your many posts, you honestly seem to be upset about these things you point out, and you don't need to be. I mean everything I am saying positively and honestly hope it helps you in some way.

Boo, you seem to be obsessing about this and that might not be healthy. So online dating doesn't work for you. You have other options. There are meet ups where you can just meet random people who share similar interests to your own. I tried those and I honestly made some great friends. Who knows, you could meet someone you hit it off with just by going to activities you enjoy! If you say to yourself, I don't have any hobbies that people would like, then try new things! I joined a hiking club this summer and hiking wasn't my most favorite thing in the world, and you know what? I met a bunch of really cool people and have some great memories!

So Boo, nothing is going to change with this repetition that you seem to be in. If you do want to find someone, you are going to have to change your tactics because what you are doing now doesn't seem to be working for you. I know you can adapt and find what you are looking for, but maybe try doing so with an opened mind or different perspective?

I wish you the best man, I honestly do. If you ever need to just talk about what's working, what isn't or want any suggestions, feel free to PM me. What worked for me might not work for you but something has to eventually. Good luck!

Nobody deserves to have someone's genitals burned onto your retinas! I've been told by several people they've been assaulted by photos of guys junk even when they have had no contact with the sender, never ceases to astonish me. It's the way they complain that gets me, like just sighing as if it's just an acceptable risk you undertake using the sites. Why don't they just film themselves jacking off and put it on their birth certificate!